We start planning out our entire lives when we’re little tykes. We knew then, very clearly, what we wanted and whether it was in the short term (candy, toys, or crayons) or in the long term (becoming a firefighter, superhero, or an astronaut) – we were CERTAIN that we’d have it all. Our first experience of “things not working out the way we’d envisioned” was downright yucky.
Ok, let’s be honest… we threw a temper tantrum. In the middle of the store. On the floor. In absolute tears of distraught. It made no sense why our parents wouldn’t buy us what we wanted. I mean, it was just a pack of bubble gum!!!
Something we inherently knew then is that we CAN have anything that we want. When someone told us we can’t have it all, we soon discovered that what we wanted might look entirely different than we’d imagined. At some point, we crossed paths with bubble gum again in a feel-good, downstream kind of way.
It’s easy to forget that we CAN, in fact, have everything that we want and it’s even easier to forget that The Uni-verse knows exactly how and when it’s gonna show up in our lives.
Fast forward to present day, where we can experience disappointments on the adult level. You know, heart-wrenching breakups. Failed business relationships. Not getting the part we auditioned for. Missing our international flight that was supposed to bring us to our paradise vacation.
All kinds of opportunities to throw temper tantrums are offered to us on a regular basis. In the middle of anywhere. On the floor. In absolute tears of distraught. Sometimes a reaction like that is suitable, and it feels better to wail out frustration, but what is an emotionally intelligent way to respond when a seemingly PERFECT situation comes crashing down to the floor for no apparent reason whatsoever?
The good news is that it’s ALWAYS for a reason.
“Sometimes good things fall apart so that better things can fall together.” -Marilyn Monroe
If you’ve read my blogs before, you’ve probably read these words: “Nothing happens TO you. Everything happens FOR you.” I know that you know everything happens as it’s supposed to. I also know that it’s easy to forget, especially when you’re DEEP in it. So the golden question is this:
What is a being of love and light to do with opportunities that seem like disasters?
First of all, the reason why I call them opportunities is because we are GIVEN the chance to rise above our circumstances every single day. Every disaster is a growth opportunity and one of the coolest ways to show people who you really are. How we respond, instead of react, is how people will remember us.
When we get dumped by the person we thought we’d spend the rest of our life with, it’s easy to believe that we weren’t enough for that person. The growth opportunity in this is realizing that we are whole, complete, and perfect as we are and that we are finally available for our REAL soul mate. Your soul mate wouldn’t dump you. Focus on being the best version of YOU for YOU – no one else.
When your business partner steals your idea and trademarks it (behind your back), you could expend your energy on being angry or you could focus your energy on creating something NEW and not tied to that person. Can you imagine if you still had that person in your life when your idea blossomed into a Fortune 500 company? The Uni-verse gave you a perfect opportunity to sever ties long before it could’ve been an even more devastating experience. You don’t want sneaky people in your life. Start over, because it’s never too late.
When seemingly-perfect things come crashing down to the floor, you have a clean slate to build something even better. It’s all on purpose.
So about that part you auditioned for – there’s an even BETTER one waiting for you. If you had committed to the first one, you wouldn’t have been available for the next one. You must KNOW in your heart that the outcome is perfect – just as it is. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between dreams and reality. If you’re gonna make up a story, make up a story that feels good. The Uni-verse will bring an opportunity that is in alignment with the talent that you BELIEVE you have.
Your missed flight to paradise is ALSO perfect. What happens between the moment of realizing you missed the flight and the moment that you finally arrive at your destination will stay with you forever. You will meet someone you may have never met, you will exercise your ability to be creative or resourceful in a stressful situation, and you will have a deeper sense of gratitude for your vacation. Instead of being angry at yourself, say, “YES! Thank you, Universe!” even though you don’t know why yet. The reason will be delivered to you at some point, just like the bubble gum.
Love all that is you,
Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and be inspired.