What’s Your Theme?

0932 Terri Cole HI RESIf you’re on a spiritual path, you know that growth and change are constant. The ‘work,’ however, that we do on ourselves, can often stay the same. Year after year, I  journal. I meditate. I pray. I practice surrender. And I still read a lot of spiritual and self empowerment books.

However, what does change is the way that I do these things. For example, I often modify my meditation practice and I love learning about a new perspective on surrender or mindfulness.

Why am I telling you this? Because it’s a New Year of course! With the New Year usually comes the same kinds of resolutions, and even if your resolutions aren’t the same, the way you go about making and keeping them is. So I am here to offer you a new approach to an old tradition.

This year, rather than focusing so intensely on what you are ‘resolving,’ instead  focus on your ‘theme for the year.’

My theme for 2014, is BALANCE

Throughout my life, I have consistently struggled with the  issue of work-a-hol-ism. Over the years, and as I have become more illuminated, I’ve worked (no pun intended) very diligently to find a balance between work and play. Yet the challenge remains. I successfully create balance, then lose it, regain it then lose it once more. Therefore, this year, I am recommiting to myself, and making BALANCE my theme and intention for the year. Here’s how…

1.  Daily Mediation

And by daily I do not mean 3 times a week. I mean I-meditate-every-day-no-matter-what, kind of daily. Meditation buys me response time so all of my decisions come from a mindful place rather than a reactive place. It’s scientifically  proven to lower your heart rate, calm the mind, ease physical pain, along with a zillion other benefits. Mediation works so well for me, as long as I am willing to work for it. Daily!

2.  Working Less

Meditation will help with this as well. The simple act of writing my intention to work less creates a feeling of possibility. I love my work and my family and know that to honor both of my loves I need to have a schedule that I run, not the other way around. I am creating a work schedule with my team on Monday… and sticking to it!

3. Create

I am a creative person. Creating anything, whether it be a meditation CD or a group coaching program, lights me up and serves as expression of my inspired energy. Creating can refer to creative arts like writing, painting or sculpting but for me, it also means creating beautiful energy in my home, or a healthy meal, prepared with my whole heart for my husband, Vic. This year I will consciously enjoy creating.

4. Becoming the Observer

Writer Tom Robbins writes that two of our most basic thought forms are either: ‘yum’ or ‘yuck.’ Yum, as in I like it, I love it, I want some more of it. Yuck, as in no thank you, get it away from me, never again. This yum/yuck mentality is constant; it’s judgment, and we do it with everything. Balance to me means finding a middle ground between yum and yuck, where I simply observe, rather than judge, all that is happening around me. I plan to view situations, circumstances, people and behavior (including my own) with curiosity and interest, minus the reflexive yum/yuck labels.

5. Date Night

I think we could all have more date nights, whether it’s with our romantic partner, ourselves, or with pals. Whether it’s day, night, during the week or on the weekend. Making time to nurture our intimate relationships brings balance and richness to our lives. Balance to me is at least one date night a week with my husband, Vic.

Now that I got all emotionally naked, it’s your turn.

I want to inspire you to revamp your resolve.

What is your theme for 2014 and how are you going to make it happen? Make sure to post below so our amazing Daily Love family can support you. See you in the comments and as always, take care of you!

Love Love Love



As a licensed therapist, transformation coach, and mentor to well-known personalities in wellness, empowerment, and entertainment, Terri Cole is honored to help clients, and now listeners like you, remain present and grounded, despite life’s complexities. She provides sustainable, action-oriented solutions you can implement TODAY that allow you to live a life that thrills you. Follow Terri on Twitter @terri_cole.

  • I love the “yum” and “yuck” bit. It’s so true…our thoughts pretty much all boil down to that…and meditation helps us to simply become the observer and move beyond judgement. My theme for 2014 is FORGIVENESS 🙂

    • The Daily Love

      Great theme, Niloo! And it’s so peculiar that it works that way, isn’t it?? The immediate good or bad assignment that our minds give things?!! So happy that you enjoyed! Thanks for reading and sharing!
      -Team TDL

    • Niloo how perfect is that analogy? So glad it resonated with you. Meditation will help you with forgiveness as well, I am excited for you.

  • vernette

    My theme/One Word for 2014 is MOVE. I feel like this is year to make some changes in all areas of my life. So I plan to MOVE on from past mistakes, relationships and pain, MOVE out of my rental and into my own home, MOVE up at work and I’ve been asking God to MOVE in my heart in a way I have not experienced before.

    Inspiring post as always Terri.

    • The Daily Love

      POWERFUL, Vernette!! This is a wonderful theme for the coming year!!! Thank you for sharing with the community!
      -Team TDL

    • Vernette! Yes! I love your theme.You are inspiring! Cheers to movement in 2014

      • vernette

        Already I am seeing the impact of my theme/One Word. On February 1 I will be moving to a new department, with more responsibility and greater scope. Cheers to movement.

  • David H. Breaux

    Hi Terri and readers,

    Thank you for sharing your list and providing the opportunity for others to share as well.

    I would say the theme I choose is Gratitude. I wrote a list of all the extraordinary events the Universe brought last year, ending up with 15 different amazing things, among them being the building of a monument to compassion, being the subject of a documentary because of what I do, helping others heal spiritually, and starting a program with the support of the Dalai Lama Foundation.

    I realized that any one of them alone would make anyone’s year, which made me appreciate them even more.

    I pick Gratitude because I thank the Universe ahead of time for all that is on the horizon for 2014.

    With compassion,
    David H. Breaux

    • The Daily Love

      Such a great theme, David!! This theme will surely bring so much happiness into simple every day activities. LOVE IT!! Thank you for sharing!!!
      -Team TDL

    • Hi David! How wonderful that you took your 2014 theme and used it to reflect on 2013. Isn’t it amazing the perspective we gain from gratitude? Congrats and good luck on the film.

  • Refinement is my theme. I want to refine those things that are working in my life to a simple process that I can automate and duplicate

    • The Daily Love

      So simple and yet so powerful, Hudsonliberty! Thank you for sharing!
      -Team TDL

    • I am excited for you to see this theme simplifies your life and hopefully increases your success!

      • It actually has. My relationship have gotten better. I’m communicating more meaningfully with more people. I’m helping more people. I can’t wait until I go to Landmark in February to accelerate the process. Thank you for your reply. You have a great team working with on your social media. I can see why you continue to grow and prosper.

  • Dave Nordella

    Thanks for sharing these thoughts, Terri. You have given new meaning to an old practice, the New Year’s resolution.

    My theme for 2014 is synergy. I have had visions of blocks snapping together when I have been deep in thought or meditation. I feel serenity within this vision because I trust this symbol of my entire being coming together after some rough times.

    I like that you focus on themes rather than resolutions, Terri. We often create a problem by how we think about things. A resolution means that something need to be resolved, i.e. “I need to solve something.”

    Your focus on BALANCE is a wonderful reminder to take time to enjoy the fruits of your labors. We have this moment to enjoy before it is gone. I will focus on your example in 2014.

    • The Daily Love

      Great to hear this, David! Way to go on adapting a theme for yourself! Thank you for reading and sharing!
      -Team TDL

      • Dave Nordella

        I learn something every day from The Daily Love and [email protected]! #gratitude

  • I give every year a theme. 2014 is my Year of Focus. On a smaller scope: every year I put off my goals, this year I am not. On a larger scope, I’m just focusing more in general. Today we’re more prone to multi-task because of browser tabs and multi-app and device use, etc. I want to have more focused conversations with people, I want to finish articles about focusing without jumping to other web sites and saying “I’ll finish this later,” which I did successfully, by the way.