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When ‘Sh*t’ Happens, Turn It Into Fertilizer!

When “Sh*t” happens, turn it into fertilizer!
Sh*t does happen.

It is unavoidable.

This is part of life.

But you are the gardener and what you do with the “sh*t” that happens – it makes all the difference.

The challenges of life simply make you grow, and provide the natural friction that causes you to evolve.

When sh*t happens in your life, you can turn it into an opportunity, and use it to fertilize the soil of your life to grow beautiful roses.

Or you can go into judgment and victim-hood, which will only stink up your backyard.

You choose.

How you see a situation will determine the reality that you experience in that moment. How you see the situation determines how you handle it, and how you handle it impacts your outcome.

Things happen in life that you cannot predict or control.

But, what happens isn’t nearly as important as how you choose to experience and interpret it.

In this sense you create your reality. You create the reality you choose to experience at any given moment.

So why not create a reality that empowers you?

Your mind’s capacity to understand and see the totality of a situation is often limited.

When something happens that makes no sense in your life, it is easy to go into fear, judgment, anger, resistance, confusion. But this simply keeps you spinning and does nothing to change the situation.

We often only see one part of the puzzle or one scene of the movie. And from that perspective things might not make sense.

When Gandhi was put in prison, rather than being angry and feeling like a victim, he asked for some materials. Whilst in prison he made a pair of sandals.

When he came out of prison, before he left he asked for the person in charge. When they met, he presented the sandals he had made as a gift to the very man that put him in prison.

He was stunned. Gandhi’s point was powerfully made.

He chose to see his situation as an opportunity to promote peace and to love more, rather than retaliate in vengeance and anger.

How you deal with the things that happen to you will determine how much freedom you experience.

Anyone can deal with life when everything goes your way, but the real test is when things don’t go the way you expect or want.

A pessimist sees difficulty in opportunity. An optimist sees opportunity even in the midst of difficulty. Choose what empowers you the most.

So when faced with a challenging situation that you might not understand:

1-Breathe. Connect with the present moment.

2-Step back from the situation, and take a look at the situation you are in from a broader perspective.

3-ASK:
-What can I learn in this situation? What is my lesson?
-How can I grow and use this for my soul’s evolution?
-How will I look back on this in the future and say it is the best thing to happen to me?
-What do I need to shift in my life that is out of alignment?

4-Take the action needed to bring yourself and the situation into balance. Do your part.

5-Release and let go of the outcome.

6-Trust the intelligence of life to work out the details.

Life has an intelligence that is way beyond the intelligence of our limited minds. The more you are willing to trust that, the more free you will be.

No matter what might be going on for you, use every experience you find yourself in for your growth and learning.

Ultimately in the game of life, the only thing that matters and that you get to keep is the evolution of your Soul.

Everything. Everything. Everything, is in service to that. Sometimes we forget and get caught up in the drama of life’s movie.

When all is said and done and the game is over, the question becomes:

How much did you grow in this school of life?

How much did you evolve and realize your true nature?

To the degree you did is to the degree you were a success.

Imagine had Mandela never gone to prison?

Imagine had Oprah never gone through her challenging childhood?

So when you find “sh*t” happening in your life:

Breathe.

Step back.

And use it to fertilize the soil of your life.

I would love to hear how you turned a challenging situation in your life around, in the comments below.

Love.Now

Kute

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Kute Blackson is a speaker and life coach. To learn more about him, check out his website.

 

  • Jay

    Excellent blog and video.  As I try to work through the end of an 18 year relationship that occured in May 2012, I have certainly heard and read similar advice on how I should view the pain and struggle associated with the “work.”  It ain’t easy!!  But, it does help to hear the same message from different sources, because when my stomach starts going in knots and tears overflow the damn I’ve tried to create, I lose the message.  And so, I must be reminded over and over.

    • Zoraya R.

      Jay,
      I’m there with you. Not 18 years but 4 years and IT AIN’T EASY!! “This too shall pass”, is what I repeat to myself when my emotions and tears need to flow.

  • Vixiestyx

    Really excellentwisdom and so well written. 

    • Vixiestyx

      excuse my typo :)

  • Beatrice

    Having lost years of my life to addiction, I come out of recovery with a renewed sense of clarity, a fierce will to live and a peace of mind that has long eluded me. This came at the perfect time. Thank you thank you thank you. 

  • Deborah Calvert

    Really inspiring and beautiful..Yes, I did always trust that in life that it had its own intelligence, but then a series of unfortunate events left me a little shaken and I as unable to trust in the same way..but now after ten years I am sensing a return to what I see as a youthful way of seeing life but now,  after reading this, I have some food for thought..thaaaaanks :) )  Follow your heart but take your head with you.

    • Cords2

      I really like. What you said above ” follow your heart but take your head with you”. I love that Thanks

  • Zoraya R.

    Kute,

    Thank you! Really.
    <3 Zoraya

  • Ginayounghillard

    Thanks