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Who Are You Listening To?

by Chris Assaad on February 6, 2012

Everyone’s got an opinion, their own version of the story, their completely subjective take on what’s going on in the world. And then of course, there are straight facts. What I’ve been noticing lately in my own experience is that the lines between the two can easily get blurred.

I just spent five days at a big international music conference in France. There were industry people and artists from all over the world there to network, talk shop, learn and do business. I was amazed at the number of people and conversations I came across that were focused on how bad things are in the industry, how difficult it is to have success these days, how it’s all messed up and how the opportunities of the past are gone.

Now there is no question that the music business has dramatically shifted and that it continues to be in flux. And yes, the numbers don’t lie and the facts are indisputable. Music sales are down. It’s true… But the consumption of music is at an all-time high and there are more opportunities than ever before for artists to reach a global audience. Just a few weeks ago, a band I know posted a video of a cover song on YouTube and within a week, they got 22 million views and within two weeks, they were on the Ellen Show.

Depending on how you look at it, you could argue that things have never been better or that things are the worst they’ve ever been. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people going with the latter interpretation. That’s the story they’re choosing to buy into, whether they realize it or not. Their experience might even be validating that view, which is to say there could even be some facts supporting their perspective. As conscious as I was of not wanting to let those conversations influence my own thinking, and despite having a great overall experience at the conference, I left with a subtle feeling of discouragement and found myself questioning my own career. The negative talk and cynical stories had seeped into my thinking and affected my outlook.

So, what’s the point? Well, in any endeavor, regardless of what facts are at play, I believe that we each get to write our own story. There is no question that someone who is focused on what’s possible and who has faith even in the face of uncertainty is much more likely to succeed (and be happy) than someone focused on the obstacles and the failures. In fact, I would argue that maintaining a positive mindset is more than half the battle. It comes down to choosing a mentality of faith instead of fear, of abundance instead of lack and realizing that this variable alone plays a huge part in shaping our reality and in determining whether or not we realize our goals.

This happens everywhere in our lives. We are constantly being bombarded with other peoples’ views and stories about love, about money, about life, about health. These opinions and messages come in conversation, in what we read, in what we watch and in what we hear. So the question is…Who are we listening to? What stories are we believing? What views are we buying into and how are they affecting our own experience?

The bottom line is this…Don’t let anyone else tell you it’s too hard or too late. You get to decide how it goes for you. You get to choose what lens you are going to look through and that choice will impact your experience. So be selective about whose views and opinions you listen to and consume. More importantly, remember that your life is yours to create and anything is truly possible if you believe in it and keep faith. Rather than let someone else’s experience tell you what’s out there, find out for yourself!

Much love,

CA

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Chris Assaad is a rad singer/songwriter and a TDL reader. Check out his website here.

  • Anne

    Greetings from Montreal, Chris.  I enjoyed your post and thought you might appreciate this quote from creativity/spirituality author Julia Cameron:  “Creative dreams come to us as visions that we are charged with fulfilling.  When we allow the Great Creator to do this to us, through us, then we are aligning ourselves with the spiritual power necessary to negate the “odds”.”  The odds, eh?  If I’d known how the odds are supposedly stacked against us screenwriters, I likely wouldn’t have experienced the unprecedented doors opening, instant attention for my script, personal contact from my actors in L.A., directors, etc.  It’s truly amazing what can happen if you are naive enough [[as I thankfully was! :~) ]] … or when you deliberately choose positivity instead of listening to the woe-is-me odds!

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Thanks for sharing that Anne. I love Julia Cameron’s work and this quote beautifully sums up the essence of the task that we, as artists, face. Happy to hear about your successes. Keep it up!

  • Guest

    So grateful to have read this on a day like today, especially the last paragraph. Got some bad news today which will delay my plans for graduate school but just have to keep faith. Can’t tune into negative views and opinions of others. Thank you for your inspiring words :)  

  • anon

    Yeah! I guess it’s all a matter of confidence in one respect. The people gathered at this Industry event must have all been so sure of themselves and their status and their place in the industry before this happened. The problem is not the industry, the problem is that these people fear losing everything they had worked towards in business. The newbies and the innovators and the visionaries will not have any industry status to lose, and will have all the answers. I predict that the industry folk will initially ridicule these new people and criticise their new ideas, saying that their (puffed up ego driven) experience (which had been highly valuable and is now redundant, ouch!) tells them that the new ideas won’t work, that they are foolish or mad. Then the ideas will catch on and the naysayers will disappear and many of them will wield their industry power to take credit for the ideas and use their money and influence to put them into motion.  The industry is not screwed, the dinosaurs will just have to evolve or give up… and that has nothing to do with the likes of you and your career. In fact, I was at a similar event last summer and they had a more positive take on what comes next for the industry. And here it is: Merchandise sales will be worth more than CDs/record sales. Live gigs will be worth more than CDs/record sales. It’ll be a bit like the deal with high fashion houses who make most of their money from perfume and simple items with the name emblazoned on them, but the couture shows which always lose a fortune and include unwearable clothes which don’t sell, create the image that people want to buy into. Instead of a record deal, selling your music to adverts is going to be the way to get paid for your music and a way to turn new listeners onto your music. This is just what they knew last summer… some genius will likely work out more soon. Best of luck with your music career. Follow your heart and ignore the egos of others. Leave those who cling to the past behind and carve out your own future.

    • Anne

      …or have the chops and the vision to break every rule in the “This Is How It’s Always Been Done In The Business” guidebook!!

  • Intrepid Soul

    Chris,
    I’ve enjoyed your blogs.  Over the years, I have had occasion to ponder over the following sentiment:

    There is no question that someone who is focused on what’s possible and who has faith even in the face of uncertainty is much more likely to succeed (and be happy) than someone focused on the obstacles and the failures.

    I believed it for many years.  In the face of obstacles, I became a successful lawyer and partner in a prestigious law firm.  I am a “wonder woman” – professional, high-achieving, nice, fit, etc — but also single.  Over the years, I have had deep faith that one day I will achieve the ultimate dream that I have had since I was a little girl: to be a mother.  No degrees or dollar signs can ever supercede that dream!  I’ve prayed and remained positive.  I even went to a fertility clinic last year and had my eggs frozen (won’t get into the details but they entail injecting myself with hormones every morning etc – bascially, the IVF protocol).

    But here I am at age 41, with no prospective “daddy” in sight, and only one significant relationship in my history.  Where did all the faith, focus on “whats possible” and certainty in the outcome do for me? Nothing.  It is time to move forward and leave this dream behind.  My attitude served me well when it came to my education and career, but in terms of the real dream, the one that would keep my soul soaring forever…never happened, never came close.

    We need to be realistic about what is achievable.  Sometimes, focusing on the “possibilities” does us more harm, emotionally, and it may serve us more to focus on “probabilities”. 

    Keep writing and singing.

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Hey there. Thank you for sharing your experience so openly. I have not walked in your shoes so please accept my response (and the message of this blog) as a mere offering to consider rather than an absolute statement of fact. In keeping with the blog, remember this is just my opinion, my chosen view of the world and as Mastin always says:” Take what resonates and leave the rest.”
         There is a saying that goes “The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.” I understand that you have been seeking something for some time and have not yet found it but perhaps it is just around the corner. Remember that a delay is not a denial.
        Having said this, there is another piece to this puzzle…in setting our sights on certain goals or events that we would like to see actualize in our lives, there is a degree to which we must be willing to surrender the outcome to the wisdom of the Uni-verse which knows what is best for us even beyond our ability to know it ourselves. Perhaps there are greater at forces at work in your experience than you may be able to appreciate in this moment but in time, they will be revealed to you.
       Ultimately, it is up to you to choose how you interpret the events and unfoldings of your life and I would suggest that focusing on the possibilities increases the probability that the things you are after will materialize. Of course, there are no hard, fast rules but if we lose faith and stop dreaming, then the possibilities don’t even stand a chance.

      I hope this helps. Sending you much love and wishing for you to keep believing in your dreams :)

    • ANON

      Intrepid Soul,  I too desperately wanted a child.  I was married at the time… but due to MY medical issues, we could not get pregnant.  Even months of fertility treatments didn’t work.  I was about to begin some extreme treatments… when we were transferred overseas. Treatments cancelled, my hopes dashed- despair! - but by some miracle, I got pregnant there!  The impossible CAN happen.

  • http://www.siansanderson.com/ Sian

    Chris, thankyou so much for sharing this! As an ‘up and coming’ singer, songwriter and performer myself, I’m constantly hearing how difficult and cut-throat the industry is and how hard it is to make money. Which is why I thank God every day that I sing and write for the pure LOVE of it, not as a commodity. No matter which path my life follows, I will always make music, and I will always adore the process. People often misinterpret my faith as ‘naivety’, but I don’t let it bother me. And, like you said, you can listen to people lament that the music industry is ‘in ruin’, or you can look at the current means of distribution as powerful opportunities to reach huge audiences and touch people’s lives. I loved this article and I read it just as I needed it, so thankyou. :) Much love. X

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=502528158 Ashley Vegan-YogaGeek

    Perfect! loved it :)

  • http://twitter.com/HeatherSchultz ♥Heather Schultz♥

    Love this post! As someone who is also in the music business, I can definitely relate to this. But it’s definitely applicable to any dream. Thank you for the helpful reminder Chris! =)