Who You REALLY Are – Have You Forgotten?

When you were born you were totally aware of these Truths:
You are whole and complete. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are worthy and deserving. You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You can trust the Uni-verse. All there is and all that matters is Love. You are love.

And then you got older.

And things happened.

And you started to forget the Truth.

You started moving out of the awareness of love and into fear, doubt and judgment.

Someone told you that you did something wrong and you started to believe that something is wrong with you. Someone in your life left or wasn’t really there for you and you began to question whether or not you are lovable.

You saw or heard people yelling at each other and you got scared. You got yelled at for something you said and you decided it was better to stop speaking your truth. You got hurt or saw someone get hurt and you stopped trusting.

Your heart got broken, so you thought it would be safer to build some walls around it. You began to doubt love.

People called you a mean name and you believed them. And now you call yourself that.

People said your dreams were impossible and you believed them. And now you don’t dream anymore.

You got left out of something. You felt isolated or separate and now you still feel like you are living on the sidelines of life because you mistakenly believe that’s where you belong. You experienced rejection and now you are afraid to go after what you want. You began to believe that you are alone and have to do it all on your own. Perhaps you even concluded that asking for help is weak.

You did not do as well at something as you wanted and you judged yourself as a failure. Some label or diagnosis got thrown on you and you started to confuse it for who you are.

You looked at other people and thought they were smarter, more attractive and better in some way, and now you work hard to make yourself more like others. Not only did you stop liking you, you stopped being you.

You got disappointed and you stopped believing in magic and miracles. Life felt unfair and you questioned The Uni-verse.

You began to look to the outside world for validation and forgot that your worth has nothing to do with what you do, what you have or who you are with.

As time has gone on you have gotten farther from the Truth. And you know it. You feel an inner call to stop believing the lies. There is sense of urgency emerging …


You didn’t do anything wrong. You are not broken. There is nothing you need to do or be in order to be loved. You are safe. It is safe to trust. You are not alone. There is no one any better or worse than you. You are uniquely you and you are absolutely perfect at being you. You belong. You are worthy and deserving. You are not what you have been labeled as.

People were mean to you because they didn’t know any better. People leaving or not being there for you had nothing to do with you.

It is not weak to ask for help. Support is available to you. You are not alone and you never have been.

It’s impossible for your heart to truly break. It is unbreakable and full of unconditional love and compassion.

Everything in your life that you have experienced is for your learning and growth. Stop asking, “Why did this happen?” and start asking, “What can I learn from what’s happened?” Trust that all those times you didn’t get what you wanted are what you truly needed.

I’m sorry that the people you wanted to hear “I’m sorry” from did not say it to you. You can forgive even what you think is unforgivable. Forgiveness is not about condoning what happened, it’s about your freedom.

As soon as you truly accept yourself, your fear of rejection will vaporize.

You have never really failed. You have always done the best you could. Seriously.

The Uni-verse is for you.

Are you for you?

And you do not need to learn how to love yourself, you already know. Love is your essence. You have just forgotten that Truth. Activate your memory by reducing the time and energy you spend on thoughts and actions that reinforce your forgetfulness. Stop expecting anything or anyone else to do it for you.

There is nothing you have to find, simply recognize what is already there.

Your purpose in life is not to do something grand or achieve some goal. Your purpose is to return to where you began: Love.

A loving reminder from my heart to yours,



Christine Hassler is an author, speaker, life coach and spiritual counselor dedicated to helping people answer the questions who am I, what do I want and how do I get it?  You can check out her website here: http://www.christinehassler.com/

  • Trent

    Thank you for your kind words Christine.  Even with all the love and compassion in my life, I sometimes fall into areas of doubt and fear.  Especially when I’m more successful than I “deserve” to be.  You remind me that God didn’t limit my potential or cap my worthiness.  I deserve to be happy and to help others do the same.

    Thank you for helping me remember this.  Keep up your excellent work.


  • Hope

    What a beautiful message! Thanks so much for this!

  • maria

    I am love. I do know  but i allow  thoughts, situation to make me forget. Thank you for reinforcing this truth. Your work is a great blessing!! You are too…

  • thelindseyoneill.com

    Beautiful, Christine. Thank you. <3

  • Martyndonna

    Enjoyed that a lot, thanks!

  • Vanna

    What a beautiful description of the Truth and the way back!!  This article needs to be read and reread throughout the day and for how ever long it takes to replace our erroneous views of ourselves with this fundemental truth.

  • Jennifersiegel1

    I am a recovering alcoholic who is 1 and a half years sober so I am almost thawed out.  Which means I live my daily life in fear.  Which means my memory is back — my memory of being told I wasn’t good enough, my memory of people yelling, someone calling me a name and believing them.  I don’t trust, I’ve given up on love and I don’t love myself (never mind liking myself).  I’m working every day to try to change this so reading this at 5am (after letting my bathtub overflow and causing havoc in my apt and building) — believing I am the screw up I was always told I was, was like god saying to me let it go.

    It’s a struggle but I’m trying.  Thank you.


    OMG!!!!  THANK YOU!!!

  • Loveddogsart

    Thank you! So wonderfully written and a beautiful reminder for all of us to keep on the path of being ourselves.  Thank you for the gift of reading it!

  • Khara

    This is awesome.  Just what I needed to hear right now.  Thank you.

  • Thanks for reminding us of this beautiful truth. It also reminds me of Marianne Williamson’s, Return to Love.

    The reinforcement is so on time and helpful. 

    Peace, Love and Joy to all!

  • Stacey

    Totally inspired me!

  • Connie

    And the tears flow. Thank you for helping me cleanse.

  • Malnicoll

    Thank you. It’s time to come home and remember our true selves more of the time.
    Infinite love & gratitude.

  • Cinnamonrose Girl

    oh, I wish I had seen this 2 weeks ago. Ten days ago, my  best friend/boy friend of 8 years felt hopeless and stepped in front of a train….facing a multitude of issues including mental illness but he failed to feel the love….

  • Mon

    This is beautiful! Very inspiring and helpful for those of us who doubt ourselves and our abilities at times.

  • Vesela Simic

    Lovely, Christine. Thank you <3

  • Isabel

    Love it. Thank you

  • Tina

    Thank you for this beautiful post, really needed the reminder 🙂

  • mimi

    I absolutely love this. thank you!

  • NV

    Wow. Just wow.

  • Asteusloff

    I so agree! Most of all don’t let anybody steal your dream!

  • I had forgotten all these things – for most of my life.  I have been on my personal growth journey for 13 years now and I couldn’t BE more certain about everything you have stated.  In fact, I am in the midst of writing my second book and got a bit stuck on trying to express the Truth in a way that would resonate for the majority of readers.  So, in the last week, I hired a professional coach and met with my psychotherapist for support and help.  Both told me that my beliefs about Love and Life were all far too idealistic and from their perspective – irrational.  I wass encouraged to get my head out of the clouds, stop writing, and get a job to distract me from my current challenges.  Thank You for your confirmation that I am not crazy.  In fact, I believe I might just BE on the right track. 😉

  • Michelle Furtado

    That was like a big, warm, loving hug.
    Thank you!

  • Acaio

    Absolutely true! Couldn’t of said it anymore better

  • Sussie

    Hi Christine….that was so wonderfully written, and an eye opener, and soooo true…oh so true…there was so many lessons there for me, i was just in awe of re-learning my old lessons of love and compassion and what life was meant to be all about….life wasn’t meant to be picture perfect and easy… i know.!!!…. but its obstacle just made it harder to see the beauty and wonder of people and their love that they can give to each other; rather than tear each other down…i am finding people are more interested in being greedy, and trying to out-wit and over-powering each other than loving and caring for each other…and I had fallen for that darkness from being around their way of thinking and believing that this is how you are meant to defend yourself in this world…..When really we all must learn and Relearn to Return to LOVE and its ways.

  • Krista

    I’ve been under a heavy blanket of depression for years, and I’m finally coming out of it. This truly resonated with me.

    Thank you.

  • Emma

    I love this. thanks a million.

  • Tracy

    Two things were very loud for me. . “You are not broken.” and “you do not need to learn how to love yourself, you already know.”

    These two phrases have become my story as of 3 months ago when my husband, er um ex, decided to proclaim that he no longer loves me.

    A heartfelt Thank you to you Christine!  I appreciate your words of “what can I learn?” and I’m really hearing that forgiveness is key. . especially for self.

    I am constantly looking for ways to love myself. . to fool my ego and feel love for self but haven’t quite gotten there yet.  It’s a process like anything.

  • JoLynn

    This is just so beautiful… it made me cry…
    thank you for sharing…
    Peace to you

  • Vickigebhart

    We should save this and print it out and blow it up and hang it on the wall and read it everyday before we start out. It’s a little pep talk saying, ” You can DO this!!”

  • Mariemacd123

    Christine – so eloquent, beautiful and so true!!  Thank you!!

  • linda

    That is absolutely beautiful.  thank you.

  • Micki_M_979

    Thank you so much for that!

  • D B S 12321

    Thank You Christine, that really reminded me of who I am.  I really am love, that IS my truth! <3

  • Patti

    Thank you so much for this beautiful reminder of the Truth. I can’t wait to share this with my husband and some other loved ones who I know will benefit as well 🙂

  • Judy

    I love this it brought tears to my eyes, Thank you

  • Melissa

    Beautiful…you almost made me cry! 🙂

  • Tedge


  • Thank you. Needed this reminder today!

  • so inspiring…what a kind words… thanks 🙂