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Why? Because I Say So.

samanthasuttonI recently sat next to a man from New Foundland, Canada who was an avid New Orleans Saints football fan. This puzzled me. I asked him why: had he once lived in New Orleans? Dated someone from there? Nope. He had just decided one day that he wanted to be a Saints fan, and so became one.

I love his story. Usually in life, we choose what we believe and what we do based on what seems reasonable, likely, or based on what we have experienced before. For example:

  • I live in New York, therefore I will be a New York Giants fan.
  • I have a degree in biology, therefore I will look for jobs in biology.
  • It’s risky to start a company, so I will continue to be an employee.
  • I have never found “the one” love of my life, and so probably won’t.

Being a scientist and engineer, no one loves logic and practicality more than I do. However, I have found that the key to being truly happy in my life has come from my being able to choose what I do based on what feels exciting to me, as opposed to what seems logical. For example:

  • I am trained in biology, but I really like helping people live great lives, so I will become a life coach.
  • I am from the Midwest, but I want to live in Manhattan, so I will.
  • My friends are all getting nice salaried jobs, but I want to design my own job, so I will become self-employed.

It can take a bit of courage and vision to live this way. My travel companion told me that he has to explain his football team choice on a regular basis to the puzzled people he meets. When I switched careers from science to life coaching, I had to be my own cheerleader first and foremost, because many people in my life were still doubtful that it would work.  Even I was sometimes doubtful that it would work, but I couldn’t afford to spend much time there, because it really wouldn’t have worked. I had to keep my mind trained on one belief and one belief only: life coaching is the right career for me because I say so. Just like my travel companion believed that the Saints were the right team for him because he said so.

I love when I live this way. It may not always be the most convenient or logical choice, as anyone can attest who is in the throes of starting a company, or moving to a strange new city, or flying across the continent to attend a football game. But it certainly feels the most alive.  Our lives are ours to design how we want, so we might as well go for what we truly want. In my experience, this seems to be the most joyful path.

Where are you being just a touch too practical? What do you want to go for instead? Write a note and share!

Love,

Samantha

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Dr. Samantha Sutton  is the President of Handel Group Life Coaching® where she leads a team of coaches who help you get what you want in life.

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  • Nell Desmond

    Great post Samantha! I allowed my inner critic to run the show for awhile, but no more. With a background in international affairs and education had me primed for a phd, instead I took a leap and did what had been calling me for awhile-“become a leadership coach for women’. At first it was a whisper and then it was a shout-my body actually shut down from not listening to the call sooner. Thanks for sharing your insight and story! Love reading your posts:-) Big love to you!

    • The Daily Love

      Amazing Nell! Good for you! -Team TDL

  • Canuck reader

    Great post about choosing your own path! Just a note, that the province name is spelled “Newfoundland” and is all one word. :)

    • The Daily Love

      So glad you enjoyed it! :) -Team TDL

    • http://frameshiftcoaching.wordpress.com/ Samantha

      Ooopsies. Thanks so much. I will not make that mistake twice :)

  • Kelsey Campion

    Samantha,

    Great post… as someone who has solely identified as a “psychologist” for the last 10 years, I’ve found it no longer serves me and I am guided to move towards something else. Shedding this identity and taking on a new one (with no experience) has definitely left certain doubts and fears, but I find the more I convince myself that I deserve it and can do it, the more opportunities come my way. Thanks for reminding me that “because I said so” is as good a reason as any to follow my passion!

    Kelsey

    • http://frameshiftcoaching.wordpress.com/ Samantha

      Go Kelsey go!

  • Bryan

    So many paths and possibilities. Every time I follow my heart it leads me to the right one…except when logic and my head get in the way :)

    • http://frameshiftcoaching.wordpress.com/ Samantha

      Yes, but be sure not to demonize logic. It’s an important skill, too :)