Whatever it is, anger, resentment, fear, frustration, anxiety, etc. – we just get stuck there and sometimes we just tend to LIVE there. And many times it’s not because of something we have done – no – it’s because THEY DID IT! THEM! THOSE PEOPLE! Or just that one person who seems to be sent to you from The Uni-verse just to PISS YOU OFF!
Do you know what I’m talking about? Do you have people like that in your life? I know I do! There are some of those people who just – OOOOOOPF! Just get under your SKIN! And we tend to boil up, get angry and find evidence to even JUSTIFY our anger. And so, not only are we angry, but we have a RIGHT and a REASON and a JUSTIFIED PURPOSE for being angry!
But, do you want to know what the ironic thing about that is? The anger, the resentment, the frustration, the worry, the doubt, whatever it is – it resides in us and actually effects our biology. It affects us more than it does the other person. So, in this way, while we feel like we have a justified reason to be angry, we are just finding more ways to hurt ourselves in the process.
We can also use negative emotions to make MASSIVE positive change in our lives. But that’s not what or who I am talking about or to right now. I’m talking to those folks who just like to stay angry. Maybe not at everyone, but at least just that ONE FREAKIN PERSON! )
That anger lives in us and affects how we feel. The brilliant author Caroline Myss says it best: “Your biography becomes your biology.” So, all those thoughts you are holding in that are charged with anger, resentment and the like – are actually affecting your body. That tension, that anxiety, that upset stomach, that sleeplessness – that’s all in you and a byproduct of the state you are choosing to remain in.
Now – there are PLENTY of times when it’s appropriate to get angry. But staying angry for long periods of time is another thing. Staying angry, holding grudges and choosing the righteousness of justified anger is choosing the path where yesterday’s medicine is now today’s poison.
So my question for you today is this: Do you love yourself enough to let it go? Do you love yourself enough to choose being kind over being right? Do you love yourself enough to not need to justify a response and simply just let it and them go? Can you give up the war? And as a result reclaim your life and the Love within you out that is dying to be expressed?
Are you ready to let go so you can finally get to living? Not for their sake, but for yours? Let me know!
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Love & forgiveness,
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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.
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