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Fear is one of those things that gets SUCH a bad wrap in the personal growth community.
Sayings like – “There’s only Love and Fear” or “Only Love is real”, or “Fear brings you dis-ease” or “Thinking fearful thoughts” or many others just like it – though well intended – can create more harm than good.
Why? Because it seems as if we have turned ”fear” into the new “devil”. We tend to demonize it and make fear “bad” and “wrong” and then get down on ourselves for being afraid, as if that makes us unspiritual or something. And what many people tend to forget is that we live in a POLAR Uni-verse or a Uni-verse of DUALITY.
Darkness and Light are a part of the Uni-verse. We need both. Without it we would be out of balance. When we make the dark parts of ourselves wrong we perpetuate them and their power grows bigger. When we embrace them, they dim and become less powerful.
One of my favorite things to talk about when discussing dark forces or fear comes from The Bible. I LOVE having this conversation. One time when I was at Bible study a year or so ago the group I was with was having a hay day bashing Judas for “what he did” to Jesus. Judas was a sinner, Judas betray Jesus, Judas doesn’t deserve Love or forgiveness, Judas this and Judas that.
So, I raised my hand and said something that set off a storm, I said, “I think Judas was an angel.” This stopped the room cold. “Because without Judas, Jesus would have never been crucified and then resurrected. Hence, not fulfilling his destiny.” Now I know this can be seen as a controversial point of view or that I am supporting or justifying evil. Which I am not. I am also not telling this story because I want you believe in it, it’s just a story that I am using to illustrate a point. I honor ALL walks and Paths that go towards and come from Love.
However, if we look at those parts of ourselves that you could call our “inner Judas,” those places where we betray ourselves gives us an opportunity to learn from them and grow. It is primarily the inner conflict between the “Love” and “Fear” parts of our personality that gives us our life. And what many people tend to forget is that we have a caveman or woman nervous system that has not evolved at the same rate as our technology and its PRIMARY job is to keep us alive. And how does it do that? Through FEAR. FEAR is a survival mechanism, not some conjuring of a non-spiritually evolved devil person.
Being afraid is NORMAL and NATURAL and totally OK. And it is by putting our fear into perspective that we can begin to not see fear as wrong or bad, but as helping us fulfill our destiny. Our inner fear or “inner Judas” is a part of our life so that we can learn and push us FORWARD, instead of hold us back. When we have enough awareness to stop making ourselves wrong for being afraid we can actually step into a place of radical self-acceptance where we can LEARN from the fear instead of feeling guilty or shameful for having it.
This is also not to say that we should dwell on what we are afraid of or use this logic to justify being a jerk or “evil.” I do not celebrate or endorse evil acts. It is the responsibility of each person to be able to manage the fearful parts of themselves with the empowering intention to edify their life through accepting and learning more about themselves through their fear. When we get down to the root of why we are afraid, we can begin to wake up and make a new choice. And from that place, anything is truly possible in our lives.
I am SO passionate about this topic I am leading a whole online virtual class on it called Love Uni-versity: Discover the Wisdom of Your Fear and it starts TODAY! Click here to check it out! If you miss class we’ll email the MP3!
So, where in your own life can you embrace and learn from your fear instead of making yourself wrong for it? What is your fear trying to teach you? The action continues in the comments below, so feel free to leave a comment and let’s discuss! Also, feel FREE to engage with the other TDL Community that is leaving comments as well! I love it when you support one and another!
Lots of LOVE,
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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.
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