Do you have a hard time saying goodbye… to anything? How about letting something or someone go, or letting go of a limiting belief that you have been holding on for years because your afraid of what will happen if you do? Has it ever occurred to you that you just might be resisting and blocking out the goodness you were meant to experience in your life? Read on!
Last week, a really good friend of mine Daniel had made the decision to further his career and make the move from San Diego to the San Francisco area.
It wouldn’t say it was bittersweet, but it was very sad to see him go. And he felt it too.
He has uprooted everything he has established here in his “hometown” and realizes most of all that he is leaving many close friends behind to nurture a new opportunity.
It is a big sacrifice for him.
In saying goodbye to him, I was thinking about all the fun plans we had going on in the future, and wondered if they were ever going to happen because he will now be almost 500 miles away. Bit of a bummer…
I thought about what I was going to say when I was going to say “best of luck” to him, and I decided that in order to not be sad, I truly had to celebrate his new opportunity and send him off with the best of wishes, making no promises.
I gave him a little token of our friendship in the form of a gemstone that signified luck, peace, strength, and healing.
I made sure that I gave him my best words, and I didn’t hold him to anything so that he could be free to soar in his new adventures in Northern California.
Daniel poured tears. And even though he was sad, I found myself torn between two emotions: The thought of missing him and the thought of the great potential he has to really be successful and find happiness!
The second is truly what I want for him!
It dawned on me that saying goodbye and allowing the Universe to guide him and ME into new paths and journeys, free us to discover new opportunity and growth.
By holding on to what we might not ever get to do, it keeps the goodness back. Away from flowing into both of our experiences.
There was amazing revelation and a sense of relief for me as well, which was great because I predicted a bit of a painful parting.
I gave my hugs of gratitude to him and as I walked away, I was smiling and oddly uplifted. It was mostly because I knew that Daniel, no matter where the Universe takes or has him do, he will grow.
And so will I!
This theory, in the midst of saying goodbye reminded me that saying goodbye doesn’t have to always be such a sad and gut-wrenching experience.
You have the ability to shift for perspective on a belief that you carry around. Imagine, having the full control and CHOICE to see things in new and different light!
Letting go of ANYTHING and saying goodbye, as we all know it from the movies, can be quite dramatic. It can tear your heart out and leave you paralyzed and empty.
But if we thought about how closed up we can be by STAYING in that pattern for such long periods of time by longing, waiting, aching, feeling desperation, pining away, it is just not productive and so very empty of Love.
What would happen if you were in middle of having to let something, anything, go: A person, an idea, an object, a fear and you feel yourself hanging on to damn tightly to them because of something you didn’t get or something you were lacking?
Imagine your arms wrapped around a tree fully. Your eyes, your body, your mind not open to the world. AT ALL. And, oh yeah,.. same goes for your heart.
Take your arms away, and come from a place of Love. FEEL how that even though there is a lingering sadness, that as you open up your energy, you begin to invite ALL NEW experiences.
As you allow freedom to that which you grip so tightly, it also enables ALL The goodness that you have been asking for to come in. It is like you are welcoming newness and MASSIVE more opportunity than with your arms kept closed.
Like what you ask? How about:
Some new friends. Some new journeys. Some new Hellos.
Room for abundance. Maybe even healing.
But you gotta try. You gotta allow yourself to let go. Have the strength to say “goodbye”, with Love and luck.
Letting go is important and not hanging on is a way to draw things back to you.
We cannot hoard others’ Love. Because your Love, and their Love, should be shared.
When letting go with Love and even sometimes celebration, it frees our energy and spirit to invite new levels and experiences/opportunity into our lives.
It eventually helps your spirit to soar, and to that of the one you are saying so long to…
Life is all about change and nothing stays as it was. It is OK to hurt and cry a little because it helps flush the sadness and pain out of you and invites healing and opportunity.
But don’t stay there. (I know I say this all the time! But we gotta release our limiting beliefs to experience TRUE abundance!)
One more thing to consider about my sharing of wisdom today, that you might be wondering about: Sometimes (not all the time) but sometimes the thing that you want can return. But in all new forms.
Maybe not in the same shape, size or even person. But staying closed up and hanging on to what you think is comfortable, AKA stagnating, does not invite or allow that energy to come flowing back and return to you.
What you hang on to has no chance to evolve or transform into happiness if you don’t allow the setting free and LIBERATION of that.
Be open to saying “hello” to all that you have been hoping and wishing for. The heart invites in what you allow it to. And that choice is yours. (Click to tweet)
Just because you say goodbye, it doesn’t mean you’ll never say “hello” again…
So what having you been putting off letting go of? Are you afraid to say goodbye for fear never having that opportunity again? Tell me what experiences have you had in saying goodbye to others how you felt in the process. Can you shift your perspective and invite a new perspective in? Let me know in the comments, you know I would LOVE to hear from you!
ALL my Love,
Andrew “Drew” Parales is the Creator and Mentor/Coach of “i LOVE Liberation” specializing in Personal Growth and Fitness! He is also a vocational rehab educator for students with disabilities in transition & employment, and the school site program events coordinator/trainer. Connect with Drew at: www.iLOVEliberation.com and on Facebook: iLOVELiberation and Twitter:@iLOVEliberation