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Why we should forgive Lance Armstrong, right now!

Oprah said that Lance Armstrong admitted to doping. He came clean.

We all knew it, but now we know it.

The episode of Oprah’s Next Chapter will air tomorrow on OWN with all the details.

As I started to see this leak onto the Internet – I saw all kinds of remarks from my Facebook and Twitter friends saying “they never trusted him” and “karma is a b****” or “I never liked him.”

No one, and I mean no one, is perfect. And everybody that I have ever met has lied.

So, does this mean that Lance should get a free pass? No, there are always ramifications and consequences for our actions.

But what surprised me was the outcry of either judgment or anger about this situation.

I very rarely comment on “pop culture” happenings, but this topic felt like it needed to be addressed.

I will be the first person to come out and say that I have lied to get ahead, I have done all kinds of immoral things, I have craved power and manipulated.

And – my life crashed as a result.

When I was a talent manager in Hollywood and driven to be “the best” – that need for significance almost killed me. It drove me into deep drug addiction and alcoholism – that was almost fatal.

I once heard Deepak Chopra say, “every sinner has a future and every saint has a past.”

If we are going to judge and come down on Lance for his actions – then I suggest we do the same for ourselves. Why?

Because none of us can say that we haven’t lied or done immoral things.

Does this mean he gets a free pass? No. There will be fall out. There will be consequences.

But, what I hope happens is that this moment can be a Divine Storm – where even MORE Grace, even MORE Love, even MORE forgiveness can go Lance’s way.

It’s very easy to step into judgment about people. It’s easy to tear people down – especially in our western society where the media Loves to build people up, and the SECOND they mess up – tear them down.

I for one cannot do that.

And I can’t stand idly by while this happens to him.

I think it’s important to remember that we are all connected and a reflection of each other. Let us use this moment that is happening to Lance as a reminder of the collective shadow, the collective fear, the collective dark side.

And remember that the dark side is not bad – it’s just seeking Love.

Perhaps Lance thought he had to be “the best” to get the Love he deserved. Perhaps he felt powerless after having cancer and wanted to claim some kind of certainty in his life.

I’m writing this blog with the intention that perhaps we can all start – right now – to not only send Lance forgiveness, but send forgiveness to ourselves.

I’m not writing this blog because I’m a Lance Armstrong fan. I’m not writing this blog to defend him or make right what he did.

We all know it isn’t right.

But we also know that The Uni-verse specializes in forgiveness – and if we cannot forgive another, we will have a very hard time forgiving ourselves. This is a time for us to send lots of Love and forgiveness to Lance, especially if you don’t want to – as a test of your ability to Love. It’s easy to Love those that you Love, but if you REALLY want to Love, you must learn to Love those that you do not Love.

And the person who really needs his own forgiveness here is Lance. Perhaps this is the first step in the journey of self-forgiveness. I know I am still on that journey myself.

There’s a lot of work ahead to repair the damage – but perhaps before we judge him, we should look into our own hearts and lives and realize that we only judge others when we judge ourselves.

This moment is a call for deeper Love, self-Love, forgiveness and self-forgiveness.

Will you meet me there?

As always, the action happens in the comments below, leave a comment and join the conversation! The TDL Community thrives in the comments and it’s a GREAT place to get support!

Love,

Mastin

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  • Lois

    Beautiful! 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1204415497 Travis L Thomas

    Mastin – I am meeting you there!

    I will admit, I have been holding judgment about Lance and his situation – so your blog today was a big wake-up call. Thanks for the kick in the pants – I won’t get sucked down that road.

    Yesterday, during my Moment of YES, I reflected on a situation from the previous day where I really screwed up – and as a result – started condemning myself. I was ashamed of how I acted, and as a result I began to beat myself up. I thought, I must be a fraud to share these helpful ideas – but not be able to live up to them. And THIS is where the new insight came in. I was noticing how I was noticing my actions. It was like an INCEPTION of awareness :)

    Here is that video blog – and thanks again for the Love Punch!

    http://www.yes30.com/2013/01/15/a-moment-of-yes-a-big-moment-of-noooooooo/

    Travis
    http://www.yes30.com

  • Jodi

    I think it’s the people that he destroyed with the vehement denials and how harsh he was on his accusers who were telling the truth is what the people (I) am so disappointed in, but yes, forgiveness is the answer nonetheless.  Thank you for the reminder!

  • Karenmcgann75

    Well said, as always Mastin. When I heard about Lance’s confession I thought it might be something you would blog about. Good job

  • Cher

    You are so right Mastin!! From the moment the story broke, I have had sympothy in my heart for him.  As you stated, I believe after his diagnoses of cancer, Lance begain to search for clarity.  I can only imagine how lonely he feels at this point, this is the perfect time to send him Love!  We are all guilty of self indulgence, so forgiveness is a must. Great Post Mastin! I am so blessed to have found TDL!

    • JD

      Cher, I think it’s great that we have empathy for people in our time, but sympathy may be a bit of a stretch, no? Well, maybe for you it works, but he has no honor, and is looking for sympathy now that he’s been outed. Would you say that any of the multi million dollar ceo’s that stole from the public company they were serving on behalf of its stock holders deserve yur sympathy? Cuz to me it feels like the same thing in context. This is not self indulgence, it is sociopathic to a meglamaniac degree. I don’t hate him, but he hasn’t learned his lesson yet, and going on Oprah isn’t a fresh start. We’ll see, only time will tell.

      • Byronforest

         right on the money JD

  • http://thejourneytolearnacceptance.blogspot.com/ Nina

    Great post! I just finished reading The Untethered Soul and I’m halfway through A Return to Love, so I feel like I completely see the depth behind what you are saying. Everyone is seeking unconditional love, and mistakes are simply times that we mistakenly shoot for an illusion of spiritual love instead. But that kind of love cannot be found in drugs, sex, power or success, it comes from within. It comes from loving and forgiving ourselves, and giving that same love and forgiveness to others. It comes from breaking down our personality that was built to protect us from fear and pain, and loving through it, such that we can all be free and happy in our lives, and love our fellow human beings as we love ourselves.

    I’m glad you wrote this – it is important for people to look at situations like this differently. I, myself, have been judgmental most of my life, and after reading those books, and reading The Daily Love, and some life experiences of my own, I’m starting to figure out why and that I don’t need to. I’m breaking down those walls!

    Much love,
    Nina
    http://thejourneytolearnacceptance.blogspot.com
    http://www.facebook.com/thejourneytolearnacceptance

    • Denise

      Nina,
      The Untethered Soul is my new ‘bible’ and I re-read it daily!  I too grew up with a lot of judgement and was  a judgmental person without even realizing it.  I have become more aware of that and have made changes in my attitude.  We are all capable of dark and evil things just as we are all capable of becoming like Mother Teresa because we are all human!

  • Michelle

    I love that!!! Miracles will happen after people read this post. Forgiveness is the key to greatness   and although it’s not easy to see forgiveness through our judgements and fear it is possible to let the light in. The love and freedom that results from forgiveness is AMAZING:) Send Lance some love over there and forgive someone in your life and watch the miracles happen!

  • Consuwella

    Mastin,

    This is a wonderful post, and you are so on point. We are quickly swayed in the direction of the masses when what we need to do is  place ourselves in this man’s shoes; realize that he is experiencing more mental and  emotional torture than we could probably ever inflict upon him.
    When I first heard he would be speaking with Oprah, I felt a great sadness for him. He had come to the point where he just couldn’t deal with those so-called demons anymore. Now he is on the road to being free. I wrap him in love and wish him well.

  • Amanda D

    Great Post Mastin! I completely agree. However, we all don’t know the full situation/press/ demands etc of his career especially dealing with cancer, divorce, etc. This is another very big storm for him and time for him to set the record straight for the world. The situation also plays into the story of drug use with all athletic sports and how far they push themselves 
    to be “The Best!”  Also I may add yes using dope is wrong and such but there must be talent at the base of it all, the dope can’t do everything for an athlete. Not all people who take steroids are world champions. Even my brother took steroids for a time and all the ended up doing was making him heavier since he didn’t work out & such. It’s just that our culture wants everyone to do there absolute best with our talents to the heights of fame, money, etc. However what about all the other players who do not use drugs & such? Do they get this much attention? No because our society likes to raise people up to the highest mountain and enjoy the fall in almost the same amount of enthusiasm. 

    So like you Mastin I send forgiveness Lance’s way and I don’t discount his accomplishments
    especially for the sport of cycling as a whole in recent years. I will be watching his interview with curiosity and attention, not just damning another human being. 

  • http://www.robinhallett.com/ Robin Hallett

    Thank you Mastin.

    Yes, I am most definitely sending love – and holding compassion for Lance, and all the team players who were involved.

     I see this as a huge offering of awakening for those involved and those of us watching it happen.

    If we stay in separation and continue to throw stones, we will miss the mark entirely: You and I are one. What I see in you, I see in myself. What I judge in you, I judge in myself. When I love you, I love myself.

    So agreeing with that need for significance that almost killed you – I wonder how much the pressure from outside–all of us wanting him to succeed (or fail) and be the best (or worse)–on top of his own need to be significant, impacted him. Energy is palpable, and when I send out vibes to you – you’re definitely feeling it!

    Hugs and love to you Mastin, thanks for all you do.

    Robin

  • Drew

    This is so wonderful Mastin! We forget sometimes how important forgiveness is! this just as important as gratitude… thanks so much!
    TONS of love,
    Drew

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1091888301 Beth Barron

    Well said! I couldn’t agree more.

  • guest

    I hear you on the forgiveness point but it’s not just that he lied to get ahead or that he was doping.  It’s that he tried to destroy others to protect his lies.  

  • Savvysharon

    I totally agree that we should forgive Lance. We have all done things we are not proud of. Who are we to judge him. I applaud him for finally coming clean and clearing his conscience. It does make me sad because I truly looked up to him as someone that was almost super human. 

  • Emkm929

    What a great post.  I know I can start getting judgmental and forget that we are all human.  Your article brings it all back to what we need to focus on.  Thank you for reminding me what is important. 

  • Daphne

    You make a very valid point …none of us are without fault.  I think what really rubs people the wrong way is Lance’s vehement denial when he had the chance to come clean all those times before.  But that can’t be changed now.  I hope that Lance can forgive himself and that he focuses on picking up the pieces and making his future an even better one for himself, his family and all those who can learn from his mistakes.

    We can all learn from this, don’t you think?

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1164773393 Jensy Scarola

    Gosh, I was waiting for your blog this morning and its SPOT ON! 

  • Kirsty Spraggon

    Amazing post, and drum rollllll…..best blog of the year award goes to ….Mastin Kipp!!! Well said my friend kx

  • Susan T

    Thank you for this – I agree completely. 

  • Sherry

    Thank you for writing this Mastin.  I could not agree more and I pray more people will do the same, love, forgive and be part of the healing Lance and this world needs.

  • Glenda

    Excellent post, Mastin!  What a great reminder.  I’m not a fan of Lance Armstrong’s either and I’ve been very critical about him, especially of late.  But you are right, that is being judgmental.   And, that is something I am trying hard not to do, but failed in this instance.  It is my hope that Lance reads what you wrote and that it touches his heart.  Thank you for writing this and touching mine. 

    With love and forgiveness,
    Glenda

  • http://www.are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/ Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist

    “If one does not forgive and heal, one will be forever chained to the experience and unable to know the joy of freedom, here and now. Since here and now is all we have, why would you want to attach yourself to a right/wrong mindset that can only bring suffering and further unhappiness?” Cinnamon Lofton 
    Today, I am going to have lunch with me mom. She has been “WRONG” (I know that most, if not all, of you would agree with me). I know she has been one of my GREATEST teachers for my spiritual growth. In order to forgive her, I first needed to forgive myself. Forgive myself for buying into her fear of my father, and living my life begging for his stamp of approval. I followed her lead up until…NOW (I am 43). Sure, I told myself I was…NOT HER, throughout my 30′s. Why? Because I would scream back at my dad and not be silenced like her (I was fighting for freedom-when it was already there for me to claim). And I was still like her….on so many levels. Levels I was not brave enough to look at. Until now. Now that I have gone through my fear and I am living my OWN life, I have forgiven myself. I have forgiven her. “We can only give what we’ve got” Lofton. Today, I am excited to give my mother what she has NEVER had….UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
    The Daily Commenter,
    Kathleen
    are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/

    • http://www.are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/ Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist

      “FREEDOM IS THE REWARD FOR UNCONDITIONAL LOVING.” 
      -Cinnamon Lofton

    • Jessie

      ” Leap and the net will appear”

  • MissyK

    Thank you Mastin.  How hard it must have been for Lance to admit knowing the reactions he may receive.  I find it quite brave actually, I don’t think I could have admitted.  Sending Blessings his way  - the UNI-verse will see his effort and forgive him, and so should we.  Blessings to you as well ~

  • CQ

    AMEN!  Thank you for the post.  We all need to hear this message.

  • LPH

    Thank you for the reminder; it is so difficult when you feel betrayed, but it is the only answer. 

  • http://twitter.com/yourgreatlifetv Bernardo Mendez

    Love this, I just posted something in my Fb wall along the lines of “We’re all angels and a-holes at times and it’s OK.” So definitely get where you’re coming from.

    This is not about Lance it’s about finding compassion within your own heart to forgive yourself and be free. People have every right to be pissed but it doesn’t do anyone any good. He has more coming at him that we will ever understand so turning inward seems like the best solution right now. 
    Now, having said this both my parents have been benefited by livestrong (my father before he passed away from cancer) and my mother last year when she got diagnosed with cancer. There’s more to life than we hear and see on the news :)Namaste -Bern

  • Luke Smith

    Its a calculated move by Lance.  Hes got several very large court cases on the horizon, one from the US Government themselves.  Hes taken legal advice and realises that his best chance of saving some of his $100 million in net worth is to come clea, seek ‘forgiveness’ and get them off his back.  Notice how Oprah says ‘he was well briefed’?  Its all been planned in detail by his legal team.  Dont be taken in.  He got his wealth and fame through deception – and now he will get forgiveness by deception too.  There is nothing sincere in what he is doing.  

    • Donovan Owens

       Pretty strong judgement.  I don’t agree with doping to be better in your sport.  It’s very misleading and obviously causes a long of consequence.  Lance will have to deal with the consequences, for sure.

      However, when do we release judgement and feel that a man just may be ready to come clean – without casting assumptions at him?

    • Glowwoman2

      Forgiving someone does not condone what they have done.  

    • Sarah

      So true..amazing how people forget they are human like the rest of us. We are all born into sin and have a choice how we direct our lives. And we also have forgiveness and ability to change and correct most wrongs. Having anger or a negitive outlook on others lives will only consume yourself. Look at it as a learning experience and move on to the next chapter of your life and make it epic! LOL Thanks for sharing Mastin a pleasure to read as always.

  • Natalia

    I guess sometimes the harhsness of the criticism is what will make the learning experience so powerful for Lance. Imagine if everyone’s reaction to his cheating was simply to say it was okay or say nothing. He may have felt that it was indeed okay and just carried on telling lies. What I do hope is that he has truly reflected on this and that it will give him new strength and the ability to make changes at a soul level. I wish him well and I don’t judge him.

  • Kirstie Smallman

    “Every sinner has a future and every saint has a past.” 
    Amen! Thank you for standing in the light of Love, as you always do. Truth is usually not pretty and easy to understand, and I have found that understanding is sometimes overrated. Just being open to, and allowing what needs to surface is enough. 
    Judgement is a tool of fear – the opposite of Love – and once I recognized that, it became so much easier for me to forgive and let go… and move on.

    Thank you for writing such a beautiful piece on this. 
    XOXO

    • Maperette

      Came to the blog to comment, but got double-blessed with Kirstie’s insight, as well. Nicely said. I love TDL!

  • Mommypone

    I am sooo glad you wrote about this topic! People are forgetting all the good Lance has done. The millones he has raised! We all make mistakes, big or small! I believe the more power you have, the bigger the mistake! Forgiveness is key… Does it really matter why he did it? It is none of our business really, unless we are willing to help him or forgive him. That’s love! Today, I will say a prayer for him. I will send him love and peace. I will pray for something good to come of all this… I will keep my positivity flowing!
    In love always,
    Martha

  • Hannah

    I have been following your blogs for a few months now, and while always thought provoking, I really thought this was your most powerful blog yet!  It is easy to love and support people who are doing the right things and make us feel good, and it is very easy to rush to judgement when people screw up, especially in today’s culture of judgement everywhere you turn.  However, to your point the right thing to do is to stretch ourselves to offer love and compassion instead of judgement to others who are struggling, regardless of  how we feel about their actions or them as people.  We are all human and if we were wearing other shoes, we would want the same love and compassion to be shared with each of us, even if we didn’t feel like we deserved it.  He has already done the damage to himself, tearing him down further doesn’t serve a valuable purpose, and only causes those who choose to judge to emit negative energy.  I am reading Gabrielle Bernstein’s new book and today’s mantra is “Love didn’t create this.”  This is a perfect example of a situation that Love didn’t create, but that fear likely did.  Thank you for helping all of us practice more Love on a daily basis in tangible ways!

  • Diana

    Lovely post…

  • ceecee

    I’m shocked at how out of hand this has gotten. I don’t recall this much backlash of anger and rage when other professional athletes  not only took PE drugs, but lied about it under oath. Clearly what he did was wrong, and lying about it was worse, but I think I may be more disappointed in the people who are looking for vengence in ruining LiveStrong. Like him or not, that organization has done amazing things for cancer research and survivors. I refuse to judge him ~ as you said Mastin, everyone I know (including myself) has lied ~ I can’t imagine what his children are going through.
    It’s sad to see how far someone can fall from the pedestal society puts them on. Maybe we need to realize that athletes aren’t “heroes” but rather, humans like the rest of us (just better at sports).

  • Kima_k

    Here’s to Forgiveness! Good job Mastin! Great point! I’m with you 100%. I’m glad you posted this because I may not have come to this conclusion as quickly if you hadn’t.

  • Lisa Lai

    I love everything about this post.  It’s so easy to throw stones.  This is a great reminder for all of us to check ourselves when we instinctively want to judge others.  Thanks for writing this – for going out on a limb – to give us something important to think about.

  • Angela

    Exactly what the world needed to hear today. I love that you use your voice for love, forgiveness and peace. Thank you.
    Proud reader!

  • Jennifer

    Thank-you Mastin for this post.  I couldn’t agree more.  

  • rocalaska

    I’m so glad you posted these words, Mastin.  I’m not a Lance Armstrong follower, but the times that I do hear of him are when he’s winning (TDF) or when he’s losing (doping).  What about the man in between these actions/behaviors?  Who’s that guy?  Oh, he’s one of us.

  • Marie-Helene

    Oh my! I just love this post! Powerful… teachings in actions. We all have or are trying to have an opinion about Lance and what he did. And for my part, I have had a hard time deciding what I really think about it. But who am I to judge?! Really forgiveness is the only way to go. Just sending love and always work towards the opening of on own hearts, self-forgiveness and please oh please more peace and love in this world. Thank you Mastin for this beautiful post!

  • Camille

    Amen – yes, M~ I’m with you!  Lance is not the totality of his error and all of us who craved a macho hero Superman had a role in this fiasco. No different than Tiger Woods, or any other high profile personality that we get excited about. I bless Lance and believe that he has much greatness…. as do we all. And I bless Oprah for being the amazing voice for healing that she is. There’s a reason he offered himself to her for exposure.

    Thanks for speaking to this… it’s so valuable to courageously see ourselves in our brothers and resist the temptation to condemn.

  • Carmen

    Thank you, Thank you for your words it shift my thoughts to love. Love is where we need to start and work from. 

  • http://www.notionsbyangie.com/ Angie Cunningham

    Our energy is best served by connecting to others through positivity, like that found in forgiveness, than by lashing out in judgement.  Thanks, Mastin for standing up for what you believe in.

  • Cynthia

    Right On Mastin!  

  • Suziecollis

    I don’t care about the doping, not my business/problem what you do to your body. The problem in our world/country is the idolizing of people whether it’s an athlete or actor. Once people get they are just like you and me, we won’t be inundated when they “fall from grace” My problem Mastin is he is a PRICK & not a nice man he hurt a lot of people. Did it effect me and my life? No and that’s why I have an issue with your blog today…I think it wasn’t necessary and those who feel betrayed, who  never met him or cycled or donated to LIVESTRONG are kind of the same people who get upset over something someone said about a Kardashian. Is this really that important??

  • Lisadicicco

    I agree with you 100%. Humans make mistakes and I believe the reason it’s so hard to admit our mistakes is because of FEAR. Fear that people will judge us. The hateful things that have been said over Lance and this topic is probably the reason he never wanted to be honest in the first place. It’s wrong what he did and he knows it. Why do we have to make things worse for him by adding fuel to the fire? Thanks for your blog post. I love TDL.

  • Shana_pakula

    Thank you Mastin for your very wise insight and words. Let us not be judgmental and deliver love instead :)

  • Wndypen

    Thought provoking and a real perspective changer.  Now what I see is a very EMPTY SOUL in Lance Armstrongs eyes.

    He now has my sympathy and my forgiveness.

  • Yvette

    Timely and True. Forgiveness sets us free <3 ~Peace

  • Sparklyzeds

    I am sure its much easier for us to be armchair philosophers than those whose lives he destroyed on his way to destroying his own. Sounds all a bit fluffy to me. I think the answers lie in the cold hard facts of the case and not what we make of it.

  • http://peggybraswelldesign.com/ PB

    what words! Yes! Forgiveness is not the same as forgetting.  Enough said!

  • Rhemash

    Yup, let go of the righteous judgement and afford him the love and forgiveness we would want in a similar situation.  Thanks for having the courage to speak out FOR love, Mastin!

  • dap

    Isn’t forgiveness a judgement…

  • Andrea

    Mastin, well said.   It seems we are so addicted to drama and the blame game that we cannot see the forest for the trees.  Judgment in any form is destructive whether directed at others or ourselves.  Which one of us could undergo this kind of scrutiny and come out clean.  Let’s get naked with ourselves folks.  Lance is simply a reflection and it seems the more emotional and negative the reaction to him, perhaps the more he is reflecting the one reacting! 
    To quote Eckhart Tolle, we are here for the experience. They are neither good nor bad, right or wrong, but simply experiences.  The experience we are having is the one we are supposed to be having.  It is no different for Lance.  It is often said, experience is the best teacher and perhaps we can all learn something from Lance’s experience.  Particularly to quit judging and start loving, ourselves and others.  I am you, you are me, we are one!  Judge and condemn him and you do it to yourself and everyone else.  That is the connection we all have whether we know it or not.  
    Love is the answer to every problem.  It is all we need, all there is and all we are, at the core.

    Perhaps it is time to head to our hearts and stay there!  Thanks again Mastin for bringing this out. 

  • Jennifer

    Mastin,

    This blog made me want to throw my arms around you and say THANK YOU! You are spreading a beautiful light in the world. This needed to be said! The trick is, if we can’t forgive him, we won’t be able to forgive ourselves either. Thank you for a beautiful message to start my day.
    Dearest Lance,
    You made the right decision about telling the truth. Truth-telling, in this universe, is always rewarded with clarity and forgiveness. You may hear many voices disappointed in you at this time, but know that your life is going to open up in more ways than it ever did previously. Those who love you and want you to succeed and heal (which really is all of us, since we all are One), love you and forgive you effortlessly.Jennifer

  • dina

    is it really our place to forgive? we have nothing to do with his life or indeed the ones he destroyed – I find this all a bit condescending.

    • Michelle

      You are right, we have nothing to do with his life. But even so, sooo many people that have nothing to do with his life are judging him and saying he is a horrible person. How is it their business to judge him?

      If you are not judging him, then no you do not need to forgive, because you have nothing to forgive. But if you find yourself judging Lance and/or feeling angry towards him, like I know I have done, then maybe it’s not a bad idea to forgive. Forgiveness, which is simply seeing beyond a person’s behaviour to the perfect being that they are, is the best way to expand our capacity to love. :D

  • Silvia

    I think if we search within ourselves we can find that we’ve all done what he has done: lied, hurt others, denied, defended ourselves, hidden, etc. Maybe not in the exact same ways but if we really search we realize we’ve done the very same things. We notice ourselves in Lance. This is where compassion arises. And yes, life, the Universe, Karma, gives us consequences and he is and will have to live with those.  Can we, each of us, learn from his trials? A wise man learns from the challenges of others, so we don’t have to accumulate the same Karma and endure the same suffering. Let the first without sin throw the first stone. 

  • Skye

    We have all had moments when we stop listening to our inner voice and the more time that goes by the more we believe that we are that person and its scary to change directions and begin to listen
    Lance’s story is just played out publicly verses privately – I feel if we look at his story and see how we have at times fiercely defended our false self and views then compassion and empathy can grow with forgiveness being the starting place
    Thank you Mastin for this post – I’m in the process of self forgiveness so this resonates with me
    Love to you and All

    • Barb Elgin

       Thanks Skye – Your post speaks to my heart as the best explanation of what’s happening.  He, unlike most of us, has a public self ‘to protect’.  It”s sad actually, what public figures go through – there is this added layer – Jodie Foster was just referring to it the other night on the Golden Globes.

  • Vick Ebelle

    hi how never sin cast the first stone …………

  • Abby

    Thank you for this post Mastin.  I’m also a fan of Lance Armstrong and immediately upon learning of his upcoming confession I felt compassion.  We often idolize celebrities and forget that they are human and flawed just like every single one of us.  To judge him harshly is to deny the fact that we too have made mistakes and continue to make several.  I choose to send loving thoughts of compassion his way and pray that he may overcome this obstacle with Grace and Understanding:).

  • Lpoesy2010

    Mastin,
    Forgiveness is the key to self acceptance and self love. Forgiving ourselves for the things we do will help teach us how to forgive each other. Human beings will always disappoint us and hurt us, but those are opportunities for us to learn to love and be loving towards others.
    I also wanted to say that I have appreciated your sharing about letting sugar go. I am a food addict in recovery and have , by the grace of god, kept 150 lbs off for over 3.5 years. One day at a time. I work a 12 step program called FA and it has saved my life. This amazing program has freed me from a life of discontent and self abuse and I am so very grateful everyday for my sponsor and this fellowship that has loved me until little by slow I am learning to love myself. It’s saved my marriage, my relationships with my family and help me live a life I never dreamed possible.  

  • Jmrjames

    Amen!

  • http://www.facebook.com/lwboyle Lisa Wilson Boyle

    Thank you for your wise words. Our society often makes the mistake of  idolizing Movie Stars/Athletes and forget that they too are human like us. They will mess up and make bad choices. At least our saving grace is that usually the fall out happens in private and we don’t have to deal with the public scrutiny.  Some of  my most teachable moments have come from falling flat on my face. To be honest in the big scheme of things what Lance Armstrong has done or hasn’t done is really none of our business. I can only hope that maybe Lance mistake’s will be a learning lesson for someone out there.

  • Lamb Anika

    I agree we forgive Lance, but more than that, we should try to understand why we feel so betrayed and why we are so anxious to burn him at the stake. He rides a bike for Gods sake! Does it really change the courage he had to muster to battle his sickness or the inspiration it sparked?

    I suggest that we ought to practice forgiving, no, first accepting ourselves first. The vitriole is simply freudian projection at its best. We feel inadequate and outsource our confidence and courage to celebrities then kill them for falling short, only to prove they are human like us. If the gods are human, what help is there for us mere mortals?

    I say the help lies in acceptance and forgiveness of self! Once we accept our own paths to enlightenment, (our faults), then the struggles shine with the same beauty.

    Was

    • Lamb Anika

      Ooops…..”was” should have been deleted.
      :-)

  • Angie

    Wonderful post, thank you so much for writing it! I admit my initial reaction was that of anger and even disgust, but after reading your article I do believe that a lot of that “judgement” does indeed stem from not being perfect myself. What the world needs is forgiveness and love because you are right, nobody is perfect. I for one will be sending Lance a lot of forgiveness and loving thoughts that he can take what he did, learn from it, and become better for it!

  • Jdelvecchio180

    Wow Mastin! You said it so well! I am a recovering drug addict and alcoholic and am still in the process of forgiving myself. No one has the right to judge! We all have skeletons in our closets! Forgiveness is the key to freedom.

  • LeeAnn

    Thanks for this post Mastin.  I feel the only reason people rush to judgement of someone else is to make themselves feel better about the mistakes/lies/bad behavior they themselves have indulged in.  As you said, I’m not condoning his behavior.  But at the same time we all do stupid hurtful things out of desperation or pride.  If we had an “honesty light” that could be shined on any person any time and see the real truth of their actions, lots of shameful behavior would there for all to see.  We need to give him and ourselves a bit of grace for our bad behavior and try to focus on love. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/wendi.kelly Wendi Kelly

    I am more than happy to send Lance and everyone who is struggling with this all the grace and love in the world. This is an excellent reminder that we are all in this journey together and thank God public stonings went out out of favor because many of us wouldn’t be here! 

    Thanks, Mastin.

  • Grace

    Mastin,
    I must admit, I was hesitant to read today when I saw the e-mail’s title. But, as with all your blogs since I subscribed 4 months ago, I have not been disappointed! I give you so much credit for writing this blog. With our media exaggerating every flaw, I had overlooked the sinfulness of every human and the power of forgiveness in my own life. Thank you so much for providing all us TDLers with this beautiful insight. You are truly inspirational!

    Keep up the good work — many prayers and blessings.
    Grace

  • Pgalicia3

    Nicely said, Mastin.  The easiest thing to do in life is judge others. The most difficult is to judge ourselves!  People who take Armstrong’s actions personally, really need to think why it bothers them so much. Life will give Armstrong the natural consecuences that go with lying. Hopefully he will learn from his actions and grow into a better person through all this adversity and mistakes in his life. I forgive. Let’s move on….

  • Ludwigsgirl

    I’m with dina who said: 
    “is it really our place to forgive? we have nothing to do with his life or indeed the ones he destroyed – I find this all a bit condescending.”

    and Luke Smith who said:
    “Its a calculated move by Lance.  Hes got several very large court cases on the horizon, one from the US Government themselves.  Hes taken legal advice and realises that his best chance of saving some of his $100 million in net worth is to come clea, seek ‘forgiveness’ and get them off his back.  Notice how Oprah says ‘he was well briefed’?  Its all been planned in detail by his legal team.  Dont be taken in.  He got his wealth and fame through deception – and now he will get forgiveness by deception too.  There is nothing sincere in what he is doing. ”

    I’m all for forgiveness for ourselves and for people we know who have harmed us. This post seems a little silly to me. We don’t know Lance Armstrong personally and his actions are that of a manipulator who abused public trust. I don’t have to forgive  him because he hasn’t hurt me personally. I hope to see him face the consequences of his actions and not get off lightly because he’s famous or beloved by people who engage in celebrity worship.

    • Guest

      I think that was the point of the blog – looking at the bigger picture of forgiveness.  The case of Lance Armstrong was an example. 

    • Srdikjolp

      I so agree. He lied and made people lie for him. He made MILLIONS!! He deserves all the bad consequences coming to him. France must be so happy at this time!!

  • Toni Rebic

    Thank you Mastin for your blog today. I think what happens is not only we are all sinners but we often forget the good sinners do. Lance Armstrong could have just been a “winner” and keep the fame for himself. But he didn’t. He used it to create good in the world through charity and a voice for education. I think we need to remember that.

  • Raj Dhawan

    Lots of love and forgiveness going to LA.
    If we can learn to love ourselves, we will love our neighbors too.
    That is all there is to this mystery called LIFE !

  • Meg Sweet

    Thank you so much for this Mastin! I was listening to this story on the radio yesterday and found myself happy that this was happening for Lance, and not because of Karma or “he got what he deserved” but because I truly believe you can’t pave the way for a better life living out a dishonest one. I couldn’t help but think that Lance had surely just been enlightened and realized he wanted more for his life and the only thing he could do was take one step at a time, and that meant being honest with himself and everyone that he has affected first. Sure, he has a lot of cleaning up to do, but I think Lance is really just an example of being a perfectly imperfect human who was seeking power and validation from something outside of himself. In that regard, something will always be missing and the story will always end (as it has for Lance) but now he is being given a second chance and not a second chance to compete in all of those races the RIGHT way, but a chance to be an honest man. I really appreciated your thoughts today. Thank you!

  • redshakti

    ego = the devil

  • AmyP

    Wow – very well said.  This is the first time I’ve read your blog and I’m very impressed, and VERY much in agreement.  My initial thought was shock and dissapointment, but of course, that’s how I’d feel it if were myself admitting those things.  If we can’t forgive him, of course, how will we ever forgive ourselves.  Thank you Mastin — I hope this blog goes viral!

  • Barb Elgin

    Sorry, but I say, maybe ‘not so fast’.  The standards ARE different when you are a celebrity and when you are talking ‘public trust’.  While I haven’t seen the interview of course, I think what people ‘sense’ is that Lance is ‘coming clean’ now for inauthentic reasons.  Today, with everything recorded on video the media keeps showing the many times over the years he lied right to the camera.  So, for some to forgive, they need to believe that an apology or admission is genuine.  A wiping of the slate clean, if you will.  So, just what are Lance’s motivations? Well, most likely none of us will ever know.  This is between Lance and his God (if he believes in one).   If I had a chance to have a personal or professional relationship with Lance, I would think twice…

    • Barb Elgin

       I will also add that while Lance is ultimately responsible for his actions, he is a part of his environment and, it’s been repeatedly proven in many professional sports that the competition is so fierce, the temptation to cheat IS a special concern that athletes need special support to overcome.  What is judgment on my part is thinking I can relate to that sort of ‘pressure’.  Lance is far from the only athlete to cheat.  And, all of us have ‘sinned’ as they say, when we respond to stress in our lives in a fear or ego-based way.

  • Byronforest

    If Armstrong would’ve admitted his guilt right from the get go, all this crap wouldn’t be happening(he’s an international high profile athlete, of course the media’s all over him, that’s what they do, it’s their job))…he cheated and lied through his teeth for a decade and now he’s doing a turn around because he has no choice…the evidence is overwhelming and how could anyone live with that kind of guilt…but I’m thinking if he could do it for 10 years and if everyone backed off, just maybe, he would’ve done it forever?!
    Maybe we’re still being conned…it will all come out in the wash one day.

  • Evolution2012

    Robert Muller said it best “Forgiveness is the highest, most beautiful dorm of love. In return you will receive untold peace and happiness”.

  • Carlos

    I could have not said it better my self. As a society we have a tendency to always put down look down on others to make ourselves feel better about ourselves. Lance made a mistake we all knew it lets not now throw more salt on his wounds but pray that this experience in his life is used for a greater purpose. 

  • Jenny

    Thank you.  It seems our culture is so full of hate and shame.  Look at all the reality shows that are filled with humiliation.  Until we can start to love and forgive ourselves, we will still have war, bigotry and a society filled with depression and suicide.  I applaud your stance on Love.

  • Nycolecurry

    Beautifully put! I agree completely no one is a stranger to what Lance is going through in some way shape or form. Forgiveness can set you free.

  • Sumara

    Right On~~Still the words vibrate~~Forgive Them

  • Stacey H.

    Thank you for this Mastin.  I was just having this conversation with my sister this morning. We all fall short. We all lie. We all require forgiveness (over and over again actually). Most of us only experience the shame of lies in our immediate community, but  Lance must suffer his shame on the world’s stage. 

    It is my sincere hope that he will be able to begin the path to healing by forgiving himself and the world will take the time to look in the mirror before casting judgement.

  • Kristinegottsch

    I agree with you Mastin. What’s that saying? “Whoever is innocent, let them cast the first stone.” We’ll, if we are really honest with ourselves, we are not innocent. And would we not want mercy and forgiveness from others when we are called to the stand? Lets forgive I’m order to be forgiven. Thank you Mastin, for reminding me.

  • http://www.facebook.com/benthe.hurup Benthe Hurup

    What a great post! -I think the best you´ve ever done <3  I´m touched and so grateful that I´m a part of your community. Thank you. Lots of love.

  • Talia

    What a lovely post and one that is so needed. None of us is perfect and we all should say, “there but by the grace of God”

    Thank you for reminding me to be compassionate.

  • Trisha

    Yes Mastin, I will meet you there! 

    That said, i would like to comment on a couple points.  I wholeheartedly agree with your post in it’s entirety.  What stands out most for me is this,  “I once heard Deepak Chopra say, “every sinner has a future and every saint has a past.””   I know this to be a truth in my very core.  I lived a very sinful and willful life as a juvenile delinquent who entered into adulthood with a severe alcohol addiction.  I raised my three beautiful daughters while simultaneously numbing myself with alcohol.  Somewhere around the time my own mother died, I picked up a drug habit.  There has been much for me to forgive myself over in my lifetime but I have, for the most part.  

    The point is this.  I have had wretched experiences done to me and done by me to myself and yet, I always knew I had a purpose.  I knew that one day it would all make sense.  Today it does.  Today I work in a wonderful agency where I am able to help families who have children with serious emotional disturbances (SED’s) or a psychiatric diagnosis.  One of the criteria for my position is to have experienced any of these conditions or lived the struggles these families are facing.  The reasoning behind this is that those who have truly lived an experience are the best supporters/teachers/guides for others who are struggling.  Well, let’s just say that I have a plethora of experiences to bring to my job.  

    So now, I make money as a direct result of those horrible experiences of my lifetime.  I actually benefit from the worst times.  How awesome is that!  I not only help others through our shared experiences but I take as much away from them as I give to them and I get PAID for this!  Sometimes I actually feel guilty for getting so much from a job.  Needless to say, all of this demonstrates that our experiences in life all have purpose but  that all sinners DO have a future if they just look in the right direction and do the next right thing.  I am living proof of it.

    Thank you for the reminder of how blessed I truly am today.

    With a grateful heart,
    Trisha

  • bradleybernie

    This is exactly the way I feel Mastin! When I saw what some people have posted and how angry people are at him, the first thing I thought was, “Judge not, lest ye be judged”! We have all done things we are not proud of and there are always consequences, but it is not for us to judge! I like the Dalai Lama quote, “choose kindness whenever possible, it’s always possible” 

  • Wyndham

    Thank you so very much for this post, Mastin. I really and truly couldn’t agree with you more. What he did was wrong, no question. I imagine he will continue paying his dues, in the many forms those dues are now coming at him, for some time to come. Given the public forum in which his lies and deception occurred, we are so often tempted to tell ourselves that his lies are different than any we’ve ever told — that his lies affected millions, cost millions, etc… and yet, those individuals who have been on the wrong end of our own lies might feel that lies we’ve told have been just as damaging, just as hurtful — to them, to their trust, well-being, to their lives. Like physical violence, judgment, hatred and resentment are self-perpetuating, breeding only more of the same. Armstrong is in the midst of what must be a very difficult and painful process, coming clean in a highly critical and scrutinizing public whose eyes and ears span continents. As conscious beings capable of so much, I agree, we must send him all the love and forgiveness we can muster.

  • Mirinthia

    It took tremendous courage for him to admit this.  He has a lot of healing to do…with himself and the fallout from his admission.

  • Lauren

    I couldn’t agree with you more, Mastin. Forgiveness frees us all. Good for you for standing up for love, forgiveness and pointing out that we have all made mistakes. 

  • Slinns Home

    In essence, we need to apologize to Lance for needing him to screw up so royally in oder to get our attention and to show what we’ve been so unconscious about in ourselves. Cause it is all about us as individuals… So, I choose to thank Lance for his mistakes and forgive him and to start working on forgiving myself for past mis-takes and times where I too lied and did things that I’m not proud of to get ahead. I know I’ve paid the price and I’m quite sure Lance will too. 

  • Elle8220

    All of the comments are interesting and well thought/written.  I cannot add much….one thought, however does stick with me…if you reread the quote from the Bible you will note that although forgiven, Jesus did instruct the woman to go home and redirect her life!   None of us can really tell what Mr. Armstrong’s true motivations are, or will be.  How he conducts himself from this point forward is what will be the real test.   Isn’t that a lot of what this entire site is directed towards?  From this point….where will I go?  How will I live my life?   Let’s see what happens next.

  • Pamela Grieco

    Love you Mastin….. my world is a better place with you in it!  Thanks for this timely reminder…… Pam

  • Sherold

    Mastin – you are living it to give it!  I love that you stepped out to lead on this controversial subject.  What people don’t realize is that when we judge someone else, we are judging ourselves in the same way.  For example, when I say that Lance Armstrong is a sociopath or a narcissist (which I did by the way because I judged him as having NO Conscience).  If I turn it around to:  I have no conscience.  Then I list three specific truths about when I have had no conscience.  So judging someone is turned around is a self-judgment.  And Forgiveness is the path to enlightenment and surely love.  Thank you for leading this love tribe.  Love to you.

  • Wapuka

    So very well written, Mastin, the power of the written word.  Forgiveness is compasssion and compassion is our greatest gift to ourselves and the universe.  Natasha

  • http://www.facebook.com/mindykittay Mindy Kittay

    Thank you for this beautiful post.

  • davFoto

    A good viewpoint from someone who’s most intimate with the sport: http://www.grahamwatson.com/view/viewmain.html

  • Ellisenolan

    Amen, Mastin! 

  • jb

    Mastin, this entry today is why I have hope for all of us.  As an important voice of a younger generation, you have captured exactly what needs to happen for this world to survive.  As a mother, I dare to say I am proud of you.  As an older person, I hope that you and your readers continue to, in the words of the prayer of St. Francis, be a channel for peace, bring pardon where there is injury, love where there is hatred…

  • http://www.fitnessali.com/ Alejandra Aguirre

    Beautiful post Mastin.

  • gc

    Who hasn’t had the urge to feel recognized or to be important?? who? It’s human nature, and because we are humans we are bound to make mistakes. Some people look for the easy way to accomplish what they want and some make better decisions. But who are we to judge others? I think that what’s happening to Lance is a wonderfull opportunity to set things straight in his life, other than a punishement! Let’s all wish him well so can focus on being the wonderfull sportsman tha we all know “drugs or no drugs”, cause I could put into my body all the drugs you can imagine and still wouldn’t be able to accomplish half of what he did… it takes a heart, and will to do what he did… drugs, well…they don’t make a man and they mot certanly don’t win 7 Tour d France.

  • Changchristine

    He’s only human. I’m not saying what he did was right but he’s suffered enough for his actions, now I feel we should just let him be. We all make mistakes. Great post Mastin.

  • http://twitter.com/DelilahSullivan Delilah Sullivan

    I apologise for the length of this comment, but I do feel passionate about this….
    There are the to-be-expected responses: the “I knew its”; the
    jokes; the insults; the support; the questions – all an expression of the
    beliefs and life experiences of the person making the statement. But the
    comments which resonate with me most are the “I’m so disappointed” responses.

    But what are we disappointed in? That someone, with odds possibly
    as low as 3%, of surviving Cancer long-term is still alive 16 years on? Well he is.
    That someone with a body ravaged by Cancer went on to compete in the Tour de
    France 16 months after being discharged by doctors? Well he did. That someone with
    (or without) the benefits of performance enhancing drugs won 7 Tour de France
    competitions in a row? Well, still impressive in my book. Are we disappointed
    that someone uses his energy, drive and ambition to raise awareness and funds
    ($450million to date) for the benefit of fellow Cancer sufferers and survivors?
    It’s not something I’ve managed to do…

    In the world of sport, I too wish for a drug free level
    playing field, an opportunity for all athletes to excel. But I question our
    motivations, the motivation of some of us, in this instance. Is it the athlete,
    the cyclist, we want brought down, striped of his titles? Or is it his personal
    achievements we want knocked away? Sitting in our comfortable armchair, cosy in
    our world of insecurities, restricting self-beliefs and lack of purpose, it may
    be reassuring to bring him down a peg or two, to ‘our level’ – but we should
    think carefully before treading such dangerous ground.

    Surviving Cancer, any illness, is a blessing. A blessing from
    above, from within: from belief. Some call it a miracle, I call it belief. It
    takes an almost incomprehensible amount of self-belief, faith and trust to
    conquer serious illness – and to win a Tour de France. The danger for us: in succumbing
    to disappointment in our external world, we also chip away at our internal
    world – at our own belief and faith in ourselves; and our own unique ability to
    rise above adversity – any adversity.

    A diagnosis of illness, of being faced with death, can, in
    its own way, be a wonderful moment – a bittersweet realisation of what is; what
    matters. I would suggest there has been no hill, no mountain or race that Lance
    Armstrong found tougher or more enduring than Cancer. Illness will have taken
    him to a depth and a core the majority, thankfully, will not have experienced.

    Illness does not however make us perfect. And herein lays the
    problem. Lance Armstrong may have beaten Cancer and won some races but he, like
    every one of us on this planet, is human, has ‘faults’, traits, vulnerabilities.
    We put him on a revered pedestal. And now we want him removed – of all his
    achievements. I believe we ALL have the ability within to beat illness, to
    strengthen our bodies, to achieve amazing things; to live powerful enriched
    lives – despite not being perfect. Let’s use our energy and focus to take the
    best of what Lance Armstrong has shown us and ignite that belief within us.

    My suggestion is, yes, let’s learn, review, and improve the
    cycling world, call time on doping, but let’s not pull him from our personal
    pedestal, if that’s where we’ve put him. Let’s join him. Illness, more than
    anything else, teaches us about ourselves. And from Lance Armstrong we can
    learn a lot – if we choose to. For me, when I opened his book 18 months ago, on
    the first day of my chemo, I was able to choose hope and belief and for that I
    will always be grateful.

    • gc

      This  is best response so far! Im totally 200% with you!

    • Sarah

      What a beautiful soul you have..thank you for sharing and not leaving such a great response just resonate within you but gave it power by sharing with people. Lovely…

    • http://twitter.com/SGMochi Nancy

      I have issue with the statement, ” It

      takes an almost incomprehensible amount of self-belief, faith and trust to
      conquer serious illness.” 
      The implication is that anyone who didn’t conquer and survive must not have been trying hard enough.  

    • JD

      I don’t have a problem with beating cancer, and am glad to hear yu were inspired by his story, but he’s a cold, calculating sociopath who tried to ruin people’s lives by suing them for telling the truth. I’m sorry, but that makes his cancer story even more polarized to me.

      • Byronforest

         whoops, this is the one I totally agree with…on the money!

    • Amira

      I do not agree with this comment.  In the world of sports, athletes only hope to have a level playing field using what the Creator has given them and the work they have done to improve upon what the Creator has given them.  This is not a statement about him having cancer, not about anyone feeling they are insecure and tearing him down makes them feel better.  It’s about CHEATING.  He cheated.  Plain and simple.  His karma IS our judgement.  There were other athletes that were cheated out of those victories because he chose to cheat.

  • Tia

    Hi Mastin- I totally agree.  It’s not always so easy to love the shadow!  This made me think about the movie- The Shadow Effect.  When I heard the news I thought- there goes his beach ball!  Thank you for speaking truth as always.  Much love and respect for you.  BTW-Jenna’s blog is awesome!

  • Msguild

    Sorry 
    There are and has to be cosequences ; prison are full of people who say they were going to pay the money back ;yet  on a spiritual level  however I forgive him  ; as it allows something greater in than the purgatory we seek  to  create within our hearts 
    when we think of what he did for the sport and the tour de France  
    …..but listen  its a stretch ….because when i do that I have to forgive Jerry Sandusky and Bernie Madoff ; as they  too ; weren’t really aware they were hurting anybody……
    Just Ask the catholic church ; no wait better not ….give it some time to heal.
    Since we are on a roll shouldn.t we forgive Stalin and Mao and heck  it was just recently documnted   that the paperhanger Adolph   Hitler carried a picture of his mother everywhere  with him  …..Oprah ? Oprah?

     

    ..

  • Maria Carlton

    I love what you said specially ” the dark side is not bad, it’s just seeking love” which applies to much more than just this LA issue… Thanks

  • Susan

    Forgiveness is key for anyone to live the life they want to live.  When you aren’t able to forgive, you are only hurting yourself, not the person you can’t forgive.  It helps me to put myself in that person’s shoes and see how I would react or feel.  It’s just having compassion for others.  We don’t know what battles they have fought and why they do the things they do, just as people do not know why I do what I do.
    A book I have that has helped me alot is:
    Daily Affirmations for Forgiving and Moving On by Tian Dayton

  • Rose

    As all the news was coming out, what I felt was disappointment.  Until he made the confession, I believed him- I thought how could all of the test have come out negative if he did what they said.  I thought the other people lied. I think that what he did is a symptom of something that has become prevalent in our society– the need to win at all costs.  You see in in all facets of life and it is sad that this is what the future generation sees. 

  • http://www.peacefoodlove.com/ peacefoodlove (Stacia Trask)

    What a horrible amount of suffering he must have endured for so long, maintaining this secret! I feel truly HAPPY for him that this stress is gone–and his life can unfold in the direction of the good now, with this suffocating rock finally turned over to the light. When I checked this story with my husband (I try not to terrorize or arouse myself with media), I found myself laying my hand over my heart, with a deep sigh of relief for Lance. Then there was a strong physical response in my throat (the seat of truth I have my own struggles with expressing–trust me), aching, opening up. This is an opportunity to dig deep for all of us, Mastin. Deep thanks.

  • Rel Warren

    To the condemners posting here-are you perfect people who have never done wrong?

  • Rockband

    Thank you for this post. I get what you are saying. He is a very troubled man who has made extremely poor choices with serious, wide reaching consequences for himself, his children, team mates, sponsors, and so on. We cannot pretend his behavior was ok, nor should we lessen the consequences of his actions, but in forgiving him spiritually, praying that, if nothing else, we start the dialog around doping, around our culture’s drive to win at all costs, and to acknowledge that when one of us cheats, we are all cheated, we are calling ourselves to a higher level of personal integrity, turning the tides…we begin to turn our consciousness little by little toward becoming the loving beings God intended. When we forgive we don’t condone or approve, we release the negative energy from the hurt he caused we recognize and release ourselves and generate healing and love for ourselves and others. Many Blessings?…Satnam

  • http://www.facebook.com/ruby.l.richards Ruby Lancaster Richards

    I have no reason to forgive him. He did nothing to me. Of course, unless you count the millions he received from the Post Office (a federal agency). He not only lied but he threatened and bullied people for 10 years. He is a fraud. He is admitting something most people ‘knew’, for personal gain. He wants the “Ban for Life” lifted or reduced. He is cold and calculating. Let him settle with all those he harmed, which is far more than you may think. Let those who he offended forgive him and lets try to learn a lesson. Cheaters do win, they do gain, and they do set an example. They are sorry when….. they get caught.  Sports are tainted with all kinds of ugly things, yet athletes are hailed as heros. Pretty sick if you ask me. Who are the real heros? Policemen, Firemen, Teachers, Soldiers. Our culture needs an awakening, maybe he will help in this area.  I have no feelings for Mr Armstrong, its a shame he did what he did. Now, he must pay.

  • 2yoshimi

    Listen up. We, and I mean ME, have done some pretty despicable things in the past. Mastin, I really appreciate your post. When I am honest about me, I have no room to judge ANYONE else.
    Love.

  • jarae

    So well written……..thank you!

  • http://twitter.com/crypticle *crystal*

    As Jewel sang in one of her songs “Do you hate him, cause he’s pieces of you…?”

    I’ve had some strong opinions on this subject and thank you so much for this perspective and insight.  I’ve had to think about this. 

    You have reminded me that forgiveness is always the answer.  It just is.  

  • Amie B

    Mastin,

    I just wanted to take a minute to say this blog touched me. It is nice to see someone stand-up and say both on a personal level and from a distance that we all make mistakes, have our darker sides and our own reasons to be driven to do things that are not always right. I would not want to be in the spotlight while failing, or have my bad choices broadcast for the world to judge. Lance will have himself to contend with in his private moments. Those times when no other person is invited into our thoughts, when it is quiet and you only have your ‘self’ to listen to. He is on his own path, his own journey. It does not matter if we can forgive him. He has to forgive himself. I hope he can have the opportunity to move on and better himself. I would want that for myself.

    Amie B

  • Julie

    I admired him when he thrived during and after cancer, and drove himself to success, when others would have just quit. He shared his dance with cancer with the world and helped bring hope to millions and this does not change that a bit.  While my best friend was dying from cancer, I wore my LiveStrong bracelet and it gave me just what I needed to power through.  He’s facing a self-created challenge and working it out in front of the judgemental eyes of the world. Facing your demons and allowing others to learn along with you is true strength.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000392107784 Anita Richards

    I haven’t read through the comments; hope that I’m not repeating…. but then this always bears repeating: “If you judge me, just remember to be perfect for the rest of your life”.  Words that ring so true for all of us.
    Brightest blessings.

  • Beth

    Its all he had left…..not like he came clean in the middle of it. Mastin, good effort, but he should probably just grow old now and stay out of the public eye.

  • Margie

    Mastin thank you for shining the Light on this! 

  • Susan Vincent

    Well said Mastin!

  • Casmis

    Who am I to pass judgement with my own handful of stones. I wish Lance well . We are all witness to a great many lessonsas a result of his actions! God bless!

  • Glowwoman2

    If we are are truely ONE  then, when we forgive Lance we are forgiving ourselves.  Does he not have to face the consequences of his actions…no.  For every action there is a consequence of that action.  I was one of the people who was judging him.  That is not my place.  Thanks Mastin for helping me to open my eyes to my own misgiving.  

  • Sarah Blanchard

    Your blog was completely correct.  I have already forgiven him….people screw up.  What I admire is that he is finally discussing it whatever the reason. 

  • Janice Stirton

    I agree with you. I don’t condone what Lance has done but I don’t think it is up to me to judge.  My anger or judgement will not help those he has wronged. They will need to find it their hearts to be forgiving for their own sakes. I think that he needs to find peace for himself ultimately. That will not be achieved it he is admitting his guilt just for personal gain as some have suggested. The only thing that I can do is make sure that my life is conducted with love and integrity. Namaste.

  • Denise

    I don’t really have an strong opinion of Lance per se, but I do fully agree that forgiveness is the best way to release our own negative energy.  We all have a shadow because we are human and this life is about shedding light onto that shadow…I also don’t agree with idolizing ANYBODY. To me it doesn’t matter if someone is really great at something like sports, music or art.  What I know is that we ALL have a light inside and we all have something meaningful to contribute to society.  Nobody is more special, gifted or entitled than anybody else!

  • Worldpeacefacials

    Well said Mastain! I have always been a fan of Lance and have never cared if he doped or not as it is inherit to the sport. I have admired him for his courage. The problem is “competition” . No one should have to compete for love. He needs love. Let’s give it to him.

  • Danceinmiami

    It is fascinating to witness the effect that the rise & fall of Lance Armstrong is having on people. I do not feel it is my place, nor do I have the right to judge a man who firmly believed that “the end justifies the means.” Does it? In each of our lives, we have ALL come to a fork in the road that has tested our moral fiber & forced us to make choices. If we become fixated on “success at all cost”, we may lose perspective & fail to see the repercussions our actions may have outside the illusion we’ve created. Every choice we make that compromises our integrity comes at a personal cost. In a culture that glorifies winners, power, status, & influence, would you have the intestinal fortitude to do “the right thing” at the expense of a shot at living the dream? Try to wrap your head around being in that position, with all of its passion, intensity, drive, & possibilities. Would you cheat if you had to in order to win? Let’s be honest.

  • Cindyg0919

    My boyfriend is a biker, so we have been very interested in this story, watching it unfold. I do not care if his timing is calculated. Yes, we all knew a long time ago he was guilty. But I also know this: the pressure for me to succeed in school was so immense, yes, I would have cheated, yes, if I would have had to admit my guilt, I would have done it in a way that caused me the least pain. He has paid the ultimate price: a battle with cancer, a battle with his morality, a battle with his reputation. These costs are so much bigger than any monetary punishment. Calculated or not, he has to grapple with his conscience and grapple with his God. If he is not in pain now, at the end, when we all take inventory he will be. How painful. Forgive. It costs nothing.

  • Bcallen09

    Awesome blog on forgiveness, Mastin. I think we all need to be reminded that no one is perfect. As my favorite bible quote: Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.

  • Jen

    Seriously? with all the hate happening in the world and your concerned with expending energy to forgive a guy, clearly driven by greed and attention, who has a long history of lying. How about expending energy toward hateful acts in the world and deadly issues like the 41 hostages taken in Algeria by terrorists or the people of Syria being brutally attacked by their own government?  Lance doesnt deserve more attention.  Your perpetuating the ‘pop culture’ of media by focusing on this and in this format.  

  • http://www.everydaygyaan.com/ Corinne Rodrigues

    The fact that someone is owning up and willing to take responsibility for their actions is good. I know that I’ve done stuff in my life that if I hadn’t been forgiven for, I’d be a right mess! 

  • Linda

    Of course we should forgive him and ourselves for even considering to hold judgement on him. As Mastin said, We All Are Not Perfect and We All Have Made Mistakes. 
    Look within if this has caused a deep reaction in you and discover what you need to forgive in yourself.

  • Candy Winters

    Excellent..

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=718683012 Tanessa Noll

    Sports in one of the few areas in the United States where we all come together. I cringe every time I hear of athletes using drugs, because it chips away at that sacred place where we all agree to be one. It feels like a betrayal. But you are right. We have to use moments like this to go within–and without–and forgive.

  • anna

    I like speaking from the “I” and life so far taught not to judge people based on their actions. They have certain reasons and scale of values and some people lie bigger other lie less if i can say this. It’s a feeling of disappointment for me.. On the other side I ask myself : “aren’t all athletes in a way or another using some substances that are not named “drugs” yet? and will be named drugs in 10-15 years? “. I guess I will have my answers in 10 to 15 years … Unfortunately for him … he had to carry deep inside his soul every single day the burden of his thoughts. his uncertainty, the fights with himself…and finally he admitted something to find his rest. A big step for him..
    My conclusion: I will not forget how much he helped via Livestrong and remember “he came clean”. that’s that.

  • Purpleparc

    “Don’t judge someone just becasue they sin different than you.” I refuse to follow popular opinion and trash  Lance Armstrong when my sin is too great to comprehend. I will not “throw stones” at Lance. God offers the same forgivenes to Lance as He does to each and everyone of us.

  • purpleparc

    “Don’t judge someone just because they sin different than you. ” I refuse to follow popular opinion and trash Lance Armstrong when my sin is too great to comprehend. I will not “throw stones” at Lance. God offers the same grace and forgivness to Lance that HE does to each and everyone of us.

  • http://twitter.com/barbelgin Barb Elgin LCSW

    Just checking back to say I am enjoying this thread, Mastin and, plan to watch tonight’s interview.   I can’t wait to see this discussion ‘light up’ afterwards!

  • http://twitter.com/michonkessler michonkessler

    Never been a fan of his but I LOVE  your quote from Deepak. tweeting it! ;) 
    Thank you for your positive conversations. 

  • TC

    Well said, Mastin. Thank you. I find what Lance Armstrong did very distasteful and I have judged him for many years now. I know better, but it is so easy to lose sight of how my judgment and lack of forgiveness are ultimately self-destructive.
    Your blog reminded me of a discussion Robert Holden had with Tom Carpenter of his radio show Shift Happens. The whole program is great and a couple of comments have really stuck with me. At one point Robert said: “Maybe a good place to start is to acknowledge that we don’t forgive in order to be good. We don’t forgive in order to be nice. We don’t forgive because we should. We don’t forgive because it is the spiritual thing to do. In a way, we forgive because on some level this sets us free.” And, toward the end of the interview, Tom observed that: “None of us who feels good about ourselves tries to make someone else feel bad about themselves. It’s only while we are condemning ourselves that we feel it is necessary to condemn others. So, all our judgments are self judgments.”
    Thank you for reminding me of these simple and powerful truths.

  • Ali Selim

    I was moved by your post and inspired to think, to reflect and to forgive.  I don’t harbor any particularly negative feelings toward Lance Armstrong regarding doping or orchestrating doping – it was a movement, he was part of it and he somehow became the head of it.  I am sure it was an intoxicating and confusing time.  However, his treatment of Betsy Andreu and Emma O’Reilly (and others) is very disconcerting to me.  If he is in search of forgiveness maybe he should address the larger issues at play here and not simply the “did he inhale or didn’t he” issue.  The way he has chosen to “confess” – on Oprah, on prime time – is merely entertainment, a Lance Kardashian move.  There are very real entities – TDF, UCI, WADA, USADA, IOC – who need his very real help now in order to clean up the sport, and maybe all sports. We shouldn’t judge him, as Mastin has urged us, for his past sins but Lance Kardashian should consider his behaviors moving forward.   

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_2O3LJIQES2OXKW5F75EGBQUEKQ Dancing lady

    We can surely have our opinions, I do – but who are we to forgive.  He has done it onto himself and only God can forgive.

  • Lichpuerto

    We should forgive Lance cuz every one of us have this dark side in ourselves and we should recognize that we are not better than him even when we believe that this things never will happen to us that drugs are never going to be in our lifes, because that can be true but it is also true thet we are not in his shoes, as you said we don’t know what happen in his life that pushes him to that side.
    We like to judge, because we don’t see the love in others, I think Lance gave us a lot of ispiration and we felt proud of him, for ME he gave us love in his own way!

    ( i am a spanish speaker, I hope you understand what I want to express)

  • http://twitter.com/SelfintheCity Anna Goldstein

    Whatever the situation and circumstance is an opportunity to examine our own mind. We are going to have thoughts about people, situations and things. But, we need to just witness our thoughts and not judge our own thoughts. 

  • Kathryn

    I will not forgive Lance. He still hasn’t really “come clean” about the things that matter. The corruption of others and the abuse he inflicted on them. It goes much further than “bullying”. I still don’t think he’s telling the truth about his team, especially about VandeVelde and the pressure that grout on his team. He showed no remorse when talking about the dispicable things he said and did to Emma O’Rielly.
    He has not apologised for the lies he told or the perpetuation of his corruption. His attacks on David Millar for speaking the truth about doping and trying to prevent it were disgraceful. He still isn’t sorry. Going on Oprah was a publicity stunt to clear his name but it doesn’t work like that. He must apologise to the cycling world and try to make it better. If he was truly remorseful he would have confessed to UCI/USADA, not a TV show.

  • Maddy

    Thank you for writing this! It has been in my heart for months now. Yes, let’s do this.

  • http://bobbispargo.wordpress.com/ Bobbi Spargo

    Great post!  I hope the voice of  love and forgiveness is heard far louder than the voice of judgement.  I love the quote you included by Deepak Chopra, “every sinner has a future and every saint has a past.”  Those who have been forgiven much are free to love much.  We all know, this world could use a lot more love!

  • Charisse Crossland

    This is a great post! I agree with how we can be judgemental to others and not realize that we are being just as judgemental to ourselves. You Mastin, are correct we must learn forgive others so that we can learn forgive ourselves. No I do not condone Lance Armstrongs actions, but they are his and his alone. May he be blessed with grace during this time.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=644283564 Dorothy Williams Brooks

    I recently discovered or RE-discovered the power of forgiveness. It does sometimes feel that the person is getting a free pass, but it also clearly shows where we are spiritually. If we lean toward being a judge and wanting to set ourselves up as jury, we tend to want to PUNISH. But when we consider the love of Jesus poured out on us for OUR sins and how we deserve much more punishment than we received, we can say there but by the grace of God .. go I!!

  • Dal1542

    Sure, I can forgive him. To me, he is just a man on a bike that lied. The real question is; can the people he so brutally tried to destroy for telling the truth forgive him? Unless you have been the target of someone as powerful and wealthy as Lance Armstrong trying to ruin your life, you cannot possibly understand the devastation – emotionally, financially and spiritually.

  • olympic

    Like him or not, he’s still one of the greatest athletes of all time. We don’t have a clue how many others he was racing against were doing exactly the same thing. The fact that he could still excel so well, after coming back from cancer.. it’s impressive. I’ve lost no respect for Lance. We could all use a little more love. When you learn to love others, despite their mistakes or flaws, man.. it really makes life a lot better. Anger, hate, and disappointment destroy people.

    Love ya Lance! Love you all!

  • http://joannemstein.com/ JoAnne Stein

    Great post!  Directing hatred or any negativity whatesoever toward anyone only damages us because that negativity originates inside of us.  Even if you don’t like the person, there’s a selfish reason to stop feeling bad toward them.  It will only hurt you in the end.

  • Rogerpoed

     1.  Lance didn’t come clean
    2.  I can’t forgive someone that didn’t do anything to me personally.  I must, however, relay to people my criminological experience of people like Lance Armstrong, who must be made aware of the truth of Lance Armstrong, and not the false Lance Armstrong truth that he is portraying to the media
    3.  We have all lied, but not on the grand scale of Lance.
    4.  You claim that there will be fallout and consequences; but you are asking people to “forgive and forget” Lance’s vile acts.  If that’s the case, all Lance Armstrong is going to do is climb right back in the game and do what he’s done.  Power and money are powerful – POWERFUL – motivators, and those that gain power and money are afraid of losing it.  Lance is no exception.
    5.  You state we should all send Lance forgiveness, as well as ourselves.  With all due respect, very few of us have done what Lance did, and we need to send him a powerful lesson that forgiveness means just that – do earn OUR forgiveness, he must truly be sorry for what he did.  This includes telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing BUT the truth and facing the consequences… and oh yes, giving back all the money he has unjustly enriched himself with, with his lies.  Unless he does that, all he’s doing is sending a message to the community that it’s ok to do what he did, and that a person can get away with it, if they apologise for their actions, and still get to keep the benefits of their lies.  
    6.  Will we meet you in a place of deeper love, self-love, forgiveness and self-forgiveness?  I doubt that many will, and I will tell you why.  People are afraid.  And, they are judgemental because they see people like Lance Armstrong make a mockery of society’s laws, and people’s emotions.  Further, they see people like you who say “just forgive and forget, practice love” like it is an incredibly easy thing to do.  Believe me, it’s not.  Maybe for you, but not for many people.  Mastin, we live in a world where there are many Lance Armstrongs, many Bernie Madoff’s, many others who do these things on a daily basis.  In a society where 1% of the population control 94% of the world’s wealth, and where society’s laws are seen to be flaunted by the Lance Armstrongs and the likes, it is absolutely no great surprise that people find it very, VERY hard to just “forgive and forget”… especially when people are struggling to survive not only financially, but also emotionally and spiritually.  I say spiritually, because we live in a world where capitalism reigns, and where everyone is in competition for each other for everything – even love and affection.  You are sitting there, asking us to forgive Lance Armstrong – a known liar – like it is an easy thing to do.  An ordinary person would read this post and say “oh wow, it’s what I should do, and I will try it”.  And when they do, Mastin… what do you think happens?  They realise that they can’t do such a thing so easily.  For as much as forgiveness and love are powerful agents and entitites, so is despite and hatred, and these things are also incredibly difficult things to overcome.
    “Inside everyone is a sinner and a saint”, goes the saying.  Your saying by Deepak Chokra (sorry if I misspelt) – is along the same lines.  This is true.  You see, you cannot live in a world like ours without trangressing from one extreme of the same thing.  We need hate to experience love.  We need love to know how bad hate is.  We need sadness to let us appreciate joy, and vice versa.  We further need blame in order to lead us to forgiveness.  This is one of the natural transgressions of life that we will eventually learn, one way or another, at our own time, and at our own pace.  Sometimes we need to despise and blame people like Lance Armstrong, for making us believe that we really could do something like overcoming cancer and winning a tour de france, and having the perfect life full of love and life.  I’m not saying these things are a lie, we really can do these things – but we can do them in a socially, morally, and legal way without giving people false hope.  “Blame” is a perfectly valid human emotion, and you are sitting there saying to people in your blog “just forgive and forget” and therefore, telling people that they should not reach that conclusion naturally at their own pace – because if you force someone to change themselves, it’s only going to end in disaster, and take them longer to get them there.  All saints were at one time sinners.

    These are the reasons why this particular blog post is, I feel, completely wrong.  While I applaud you for getting your life together and putting together a beautiful website that speaks of love and inspiration, please keep in mind that love is also tough, and that sometimes love needs to put us through emotions such as fear.. hate.. misery.. sadness – and yes, blame – in order to lead us closer to it.

  • Amira

    In the world of sports, athletes only hope to have a level playing field using what the Creator has given them and the work they have done to improve upon what the Creator has given them. This is not a statement about him having cancer, not about anyone feeling they are insecure and tearing him down makes them feel better. It’s about CHEATING. He cheated. Plain and simple. His karma IS our judgement. There were other athletes that were cheated out of those victories because he chose to cheat.

  • Brando

    There’s a difference between forgiving him and making him the victim. Forgiveness doesn’t change the fact that he took victories away from deserving riders, that he bullied others into doping, that he threatened others, that he destroyed others who were telling the truth all along, and that he constructed a lie and false story of hope, that glorified him alone.

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