Oprah said that Lance Armstrong admitted to doping. He came clean.
We all knew it, but now we know it.
The episode of Oprah’s Next Chapter will air tomorrow on OWN with all the details.
As I started to see this leak onto the Internet – I saw all kinds of remarks from my Facebook and Twitter friends saying “they never trusted him” and “karma is a b****” or “I never liked him.”
No one, and I mean no one, is perfect. And everybody that I have ever met has lied.
So, does this mean that Lance should get a free pass? No, there are always ramifications and consequences for our actions.
But what surprised me was the outcry of either judgment or anger about this situation.
I very rarely comment on “pop culture” happenings, but this topic felt like it needed to be addressed.
I will be the first person to come out and say that I have lied to get ahead, I have done all kinds of immoral things, I have craved power and manipulated.
And – my life crashed as a result.
When I was a talent manager in Hollywood and driven to be “the best” – that need for significance almost killed me. It drove me into deep drug addiction and alcoholism – that was almost fatal.
I once heard Deepak Chopra say, “every sinner has a future and every saint has a past.”
If we are going to judge and come down on Lance for his actions – then I suggest we do the same for ourselves. Why?
Because none of us can say that we haven’t lied or done immoral things.
Does this mean he gets a free pass? No. There will be fall out. There will be consequences.
But, what I hope happens is that this moment can be a Divine Storm – where even MORE Grace, even MORE Love, even MORE forgiveness can go Lance’s way.
It’s very easy to step into judgment about people. It’s easy to tear people down – especially in our western society where the media Loves to build people up, and the SECOND they mess up – tear them down.
I for one cannot do that.
And I can’t stand idly by while this happens to him.
I think it’s important to remember that we are all connected and a reflection of each other. Let us use this moment that is happening to Lance as a reminder of the collective shadow, the collective fear, the collective dark side.
And remember that the dark side is not bad – it’s just seeking Love.
Perhaps Lance thought he had to be “the best” to get the Love he deserved. Perhaps he felt powerless after having cancer and wanted to claim some kind of certainty in his life.
I’m writing this blog with the intention that perhaps we can all start – right now – to not only send Lance forgiveness, but send forgiveness to ourselves.
I’m not writing this blog because I’m a Lance Armstrong fan. I’m not writing this blog to defend him or make right what he did.
We all know it isn’t right.
But we also know that The Uni-verse specializes in forgiveness – and if we cannot forgive another, we will have a very hard time forgiving ourselves. This is a time for us to send lots of Love and forgiveness to Lance, especially if you don’t want to – as a test of your ability to Love. It’s easy to Love those that you Love, but if you REALLY want to Love, you must learn to Love those that you do not Love.
And the person who really needs his own forgiveness here is Lance. Perhaps this is the first step in the journey of self-forgiveness. I know I am still on that journey myself.
There’s a lot of work ahead to repair the damage – but perhaps before we judge him, we should look into our own hearts and lives and realize that we only judge others when we judge ourselves.
This moment is a call for deeper Love, self-Love, forgiveness and self-forgiveness.
Will you meet me there?
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