Will You Ever Be Ready?

chrisassaadIt’s amazing to think how much of our lives we spend waiting or “getting ready” to do what we REALLY want, to be who we REALLY are and to live for what we REALLY believe in.

I’ve been discovering this about myself lately and I’m seeing it show up everywhere in my life. It’s been hard to admit but I’ve been guilty of “tomorrow” syndrome. Instead of going for it NOW, I tell myself that I’ll do the thing, finish the song, ask the girl out, make the call, have the conversation…tomorrow.

Sometimes this postponement arises from being too comfortable and other times, it’s a product of fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of intimacy. Pick your poison.

At the root, it all comes down to the same thing.

Whether we stay where we are because we convince ourselves that we’re content with the status quo or because we’re afraid of change, the fact is we’re missing out on the good stuff that lives in the unknown, beyond our edge.

And when it comes to the zone of human experience outside what we already know and have been through, “being ready” is a total mind game designed to keep us small and stuck right where we are.

What does “being ready” even really mean?

For most of us, it means being in total control of the outcome which again is just a way of protecting ourselves from an experience we perceive as negative such as messing up, not getting the thing we want or having to giving it a few tries before we succeed.

Well, I’ve had a few major kicks in the ass recently that have really opened my eyes to the fact that I’ve been playing small and that there’s no such thing as tomorrow . The only moment that’s guaranteed is this one and waiting to be ready is a death sentence to our full potential, both creatively and spiritually.

I’ve also been coming to the realization that when life presents us with an opportunity, it’s because WE ARE READY and it’s time to have that experience. (Tweet-worthy!) Plain and simple. If an opportunity has come your way, it’s because you’ve attracted it and the experience, even though it may appear scary on the surface, is one you’re soul is calling for. As the wise Steven Pressfield says:

“The more important a call or action is to our soul’s evolution, the more Resistance we will feel towards pursuing it.”

When our fears come up, the challenge is to remain present, to remember that our time is NOW and that it’s less about assuring an outcome and more about being true to ourselves by going for it because that’s how we grow and expand.

So… I’ve decided that and I’m officially DONE waiting and preparing! I see that I’m as ready as I’ll ever be and the truth is, I don’t have forever, I only know for sure that I have today, RIGHT NOW.

What about you? Have you been waiting, delaying or spending your time getting ready for something your heart is calling for?

If the answer is yes and this speaks to you in any way, consider this a <<<LOVING KICK IN THE ASS>>> from me to you.

If you REALLY want something… GO GET IT!!!

You are ready.

Much love,



Chris Assaad is a singer/songwriter and inspirational artist from Toronto who left a promising career in law several years ago to pursue his dream of a career in music. Since then, Chris has been actively using his voice to enCOURAGE others to follow their dreams, express their creativity and live life to the fullest.

Connect with Chris via www.chrisassaad.comTwitter and Facebook.

Chris is also a member of the TDL Mentoring team. To learn more about the TDL Mentoring Program click here.

  • sandy

    This is so what I needed to hear. Thanks Chris. BTW how is your facebook challenge going?I have been off facebook since January…..and its all good 🙂

    • Chris Assaad

      Glad to hear Sandy! Facebook challenge was great. I did zero social media for three weeks and now I’m back but have found a much healthier balance. Still no fb on my phone which has been a game changer. Awesome that you’re still off…keep it up!

  • alsingingteacher

    Thanks. I needed that kick!

    • Chris Assaad

      Anytime! 🙂

  • Sandra

    This sincerely came at an opportune time in my life and I needed to hear this in this way. Wonderful!

    • Chris Assaad

      Glad to hear Sandra!

  • Millicent

    Wow!! Thank you for that. I AM READY!!!

    • Chris Assaad

      Yes you ARE!

  • Lauri Shaw

    this is a good read-like my quote here says- there are seven days in the week and someday isnt one of them- good luck 🙂

  • Kate

    This is great ! Something I definitely needed to read. I’ve been asked to step up and take on a large role at church but have been pretty hesitant; for fear of failure, change, etc.

    Praise God because “when life presents us with an opportunity, it’s because WE ARE READY and it’s time to have that experience.”

    Thank you.

    • Chris Assaad

      Yes. You got it Kate!

  • Michelle

    Let’s make this go viral! I am ready, share, share, share, post, post, post! Love it Chris!

    • Chris Assaad

      Thanks for spreading the love Michelle! 🙂

  • Ma Nithya Sarvasmarana

    This is awesome as always Chris! Thank you! As usual your timing is impeccable. Love the tweet as well.

    • Chris Assaad

      Thanks Ma Nithya! Much love 🙂

  • Brilliant and well said Chris!! AH– the tomorrow syndrome. SO many of us guilty of it… including me! Even right here, right now on TDL. I have been putting off my article contributions for weeks!! 😉 I keep making the excuses that I am SO focused on additional areas, and for some reason I keep forgetting there is SO MUCH Love here and the continual opportunity to help the amazing readers here! Time to get back into the TDL family again! Thanks so much Chris… YOU ROCK Buddy! Miss ya!
    Sending you Love,

    • Chris Assaad

      Thanks Drew! Get back on the horse bro and spead your love brother!

      • Alright!! Im getting back on… Im getting back on! 🙂 Much Love richt back brother!!

  • Yes Chris! If it always feels “too soon” then someday, it will be “too late”. (tweet worthy) 😉 thx for the words of wisdom here!

  • Tanuja

    Ready, fire, then adjust the aim rather than getting bogged down in the analysis of getting the aim perfect before taking action. Thanks for sharing, Michelle.:) Great article, Chris. Happy Sunday! 🙂

  • I totally agree with you, kinda!. That reminds me of the opportunity I got last summer and i feel like I totally blew it, well from outside looked like it was out of my hand, but in my heart I feel like I was the one blew it, because I got scared and was thinking I a not really and doubted the universe. So regret comes to follow now, but I have accepted my mistake. One issue I have with this is; What if you really are clueless after that incident to how to try again, or how to make it happen. What if it looks like it is totally out of your hand, and all you can do is wait. I hate waiting, I hate not doing anything, in fact. I am the opposite of you chris, at least I have been, when I want something I go for it and I don’t care about the outcome I just go and make it happen. But this is the first time in my life I feel like I am like a sitting duck. I have no idea what to do, or how to do, or where in the hell I have to look for. So I have decide to just stop and be present, it is taking too long and i am losing my patience, but I know all you can do is to be present, and do what gives you little joy, maybe the direction will come to you. It is a new way for me, so I am a bit bad at it. But it is funny that I feel like I am different than other people and going backwards.
    So, any suggestions for this; What if you have been a go getter all your life, and for the first time, feels like your hands are tide behind your back and all you see is a no end dessert with nothing to see.

  • Laura

    Excellent, as always, Chris. Thank you. I needed a good kick in the pants to get going again.

  • Sarah

    Can I get more then 1 Kick??? I need it..haha! Thanks as always for sharing such great insight. God bless.