Will You Marry Me?

Are you ready?

The time has come to marry yourself.

Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of your relationship with others.

There are so many books on relationships. How to get a man. How to keep a man. How to find your soulmate. How to be the best lover. How to make a woman fall in love with you.

But the most important relationship is with you.

You are the one that you have been seeking.

You can have the best lover in the world. But unless you have you you have nothing.

When you are connected to yourself, you have everything.

When you fall in love with yourself, you connect to a source of real fulfillment and joy that is powerful. You are full, no longer needing someone outside to love or validate you. Then you can go into relationships from a place of sharing the love that is already in your heart, rather than seeking love outside.

This will completely shift your relationships. No longer seeking to get someone outside of yourself to give you what you may not be giving your self. Trying to get someone outside of your self to love you in order to feel worthy or secure is a sure recipe for suffering and insecurity.

How is your relationship with yourself?

Relationships are simply a dynamic mirror and you attract to yourself where you are in consciousness. You attract to you at the level you are now. Relationships are an emotional feedback mechanism.  Thank the partner that shows up in your life, for they give you the gift to seeing yourself more clearly, and reveal to you where your growth lies.

So, you are constantly in relationship with yourself. Those that show up in your life are an aspect, and mirror manifestation of you.

Do you like what you see? Do you like who you are in relationship with? Do you like who you are attracting?

If not, you must start with You.

Make a commitment to yourself today, not in a superficial or narcissistic way, but a real heart commitment to your growth and evolution.

– Commit to being faithful with yourself even when it might be tempting to compromise and sell out your truth.

– Commit to listening to your feelings and honoring them even when it’s difficult and those in your life are pressuring you otherwise.

– Commit to being compassionate with yourself and bringing love to the parts of you that most challenge you.

– Commit to showing up for yourself fully and following through on your commitments.

– Commit to nourishing your connection with your Soul, and spirit, in world that constantly tries to condition you.

If you aren’t going to love and accept YOU, then why should someone else?

Even if you are in a relationship.

Be your own soulmate.

Marry yourself for real.

Will you?



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P.P.S. Tell me more about the commitment you are willing to make to yourself today! I would love to hear about it in the comments below.

  • Pam3g


    • Scorch

      So did I…just glorious!

  • Scorch

    Epic, love this so much. I am going to be the person I’d like to marry! Xxx

  • WildflowerWildcard

    Kute, thank you so much.  The message of this post is my life’s greatest lesson and one I have struggled with extensively for the the past 3 years.  I want so much for people to love me and like me.  To have more friends, and be more outgoing (I’m a VERY reclusive introvert) and be more exciting and more hard working and more this, and more that. It’s never enough.  I feel like I’m never enough.  But my loved ones have had to remind me time and time again that I AM enough.  And if I don’t learn to love and like myself, no one else will.  

    It’s hard to change your thoughts. It’s hard to change your feelings and actions.  It’s hard to change your life.  But I know more and more that I have to change because the tears and the pain and anguish I cause myself are just too much for me to bear anymore. I can’t go on like this. Or, as Lisa Rankin put it a post on her blog, I can’t keep creating my own suffering.  So I’m doing my best to be my own best friend and catch those negative (and usually irrational) thoughts and tell myself, “Hey. It’s ok. I know you’re hurting. But you don’t have to. I’m here for you. And I’m not going anywhere. And I’m going to help you make it through this. I promise.”

    And it’s not easy. It’s not easy to love someone who doesn’t love themselves. It’s even harder when that person is you and you have to face him/her in the mirror every day. And when you’re used to suffering and pain and beating yourself up, showing yourself a little compassion feels strange and even undeserved. But I am trying. All the time, I am trying. And to my fellow Daily Lovers, I hope you are trying too. I hope you are finding your peace, your joy, and your strength. I hope you are making the effort to grow in meaningful ways and see the fruits of your labor pay off.  We are all in this together. Blessings.

  • Alphabet

    “Great minds think alike”

  • Leah Binkley


  • Liz

    Many thanks for sharing.  I promise, i will work on myself so i can be ready to marry myself; i am going through a breakup after 20 years of marriage, and i am not dealing so easily with the emotions that tag along with the pain, but i do know i am working on getting stronger in my faith every breath i take; i have a great support to help me make it through.  I am committed to see my own light, one day.