“Love sometimes wants to do us a great favor: hold us upside down and shake all the nonsense out.”
- Hafiz
We plan our lives away. Scheduling on paper, in our phones and my personal favorite, scribbling on the back of our hands. I’ve written on TDL about my own struggles to let go and enjoy the journey of life as it unfolds, by NOT planning every minute away and believing our gifts will guide us. Big fat truth: even if we believe in ourselves, there will be periods of struggle. Even if we make a plan, it can completely fall apart.
I had made conservative plans to be self-employed by the end of next year, taking a slow, steady approach to my dreams. I lost my primary source of income a few weeks ago. The backbone and stability to my dreaming no longer existed. I felt I had been prematurely pushed off a cliff. I had to take a long, deep breath.
And more, longer, slower deep breaths.
I took a day to mourn the loss, to reflect and ask the introspective questions about life. Invariably there can be fear when we approach a blank canvas. It was time to come up with a new plan. As the economy continues in this unpredictable pattern, many will continue to be affected by the loss of a job. I am grateful for all that I have and counted my blessings as I surveyed the road ahead.
Taking a few more deep breaths.
I wanted to share this very personal situation with TDL readers, in the event you find yourself in this place. We are challenged to grow by situations in life, but it should not always be a struggle. Your employment situation is a large part of your life. You don’t want to find yourself in an unhealthy relationship when it comes to your career, bouncing around from place to place. Being mentally okay and happy with what you do keeps your soul on fire. Below are my tips for planning the “what’s next” when you lose your job.
1. Rally your support system. There is zero shame or embarrassment in being laid off from a job. Clearly indicate to people you’re between jobs and the reason why, without making it a pity party. Exude confidence in your voice and your skills when speaking.
2. Reflect on your skills and talents. Could your passion, your love be the next big thing for you? Ask yourself if having a paycheck associated with it would take something away from your talents and gifts. Envision a day filled with tasks you love that challenge you. Put a plan in place if it seems realistic.
3. Check your bank account. Make a new budget. Edit out recurring monthly services you are not using or are no longer essential. Keep a close eye on your bottom eye and know how long you can “float” if needed. If you can afford a financial planner, check in with one.
4. Allow yourself one day of mourning and no more. It is way too easy to become unmotivated and glued to the couch feeling sorry for yourself. Get out of the house. Go for a long walk. Exercise. Take care of yourself through preventative measures and keep your health insurance.
5. Refresh your resume. Email connections and be prepared to network when you can. You have the ability to find peers and possibly your next source of income via social media. Keep your social media accounts fun and reflective of your personality with a professional tone.
6. Keep your energy level high! Find an affirmation that works for you and repeat, repeat, repeat. If you can afford a coach to help you through this period, they will be with you through the emotional ups and downs, keeping you accountable for the bigger picture.
Losing your job isn’t the end of the world. It could be the start of your biggest dream. Stay positive; stay connected to those you love and don’t be afraid to take a risk within reason. Believe in your gifts, your talents and your worth. You have to be your biggest champion through this period of time. If you have tips to share with those in an “in-between” situation, please share in the comments.
Be Well,
Erin
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Erin Haslag, a board-certified holistic wellness coach, can be found at WELL in L.A. where she writes too often about kale, posts pictures that inspire her and shares ways to integrate wellness in all aspects of life. For a mini-dose of WELL, say hello on Twitter @WELLinLA.
