You Are Enough – #BeYou

JoeyParker 051112In this very moment, join me in accepting yourself exactly as you are. As we parade on through our days it’s easy to get lost in our negative voices that poison our brains. Our minds begin to become filled with lies. We begin to believe we are not good enough.

You may not be where you want in life, but in this very moment accept where you are. We as a society fear rejection, we fear not being accepted, we FEAR, FEAR, FEAR. I am here to remind you that you matter and everything will be okay. Your struggles don’t define you, but help make you stronger.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

For me, I have always been the type of person that tried to please EVERYBODY. I was so afraid of what others would think of me, so I would do anything to try to do my best to mold into what I thought would work best. Throughout high school I was so scared of being judged on my sexuality, so like many, I began to bury this secret.

Finally, I realized in order for me to be truly happy, I must face my biggest fear. I had to face the reality of being confident with my sexuality. It’s something that rarely is talked about in America on a deeper level, so I felt as if I was drowning in my own thoughts. It wasn’t until I saw Don Lemon on CNN come out that I felt confident in embracing the unknown. When I saw him take that leap, I knew I still could be a successful person. It sounds crazy, but that is how I was thinking.

“He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away” ~ Raymond Hull

When we let go of worrying about what others think of us, we begin to find the path towards happiness. I knew that in order for me to be truly happy I would have to be honest with myself, and then my family. When others judge you it does not reflect you, it truly reflects back on them. All you can do is be the best you can be.

Life is too short for judgment. Life is full of struggle, as you trek through your days make an effort to bring light into others lives. You never know what those around you are going through. A simple smile goes a long way.

Be you! You matter.

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.” ~ E.E. Cummings

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Joey Parker is editor-in-chief of The Joey Parker Movement and contributing writer for MTV Act. He is passionate about ending human trafficking & creating a brighter future.  Find Joey at , Facebook, and @TheJoeyParker.

  • anon

    I just broke up with my otherwise lovely boyfriend because he wanted me to change and judged me. I think it’s a major achievement when you have stopped judging yourself harshly… but it can be very hard to deal with the judgement that other people put onto you- particularly people you let get close to you and who claim to love you. The changes he wanted in me were for my own good… but ultimately, I was happy without making such changes and so I found it harder to be authentic and un-self-conscious around him. He also didn’t value my feelings enough and if someone had upset me he would put his efforts into making my feelings wrong and to be corrected with logic. I chose to love myself just the way I am over being loved by someone who wasn’t very accepting. I miss him, but I couldn’t see things working out when I was always put into a position where I had to defend myself for my lifestyle choices and feelings.  

    • Sara Plummer

      This is fantastic! Timely and needed. We can do 9 out of 10 things right & somehow place weight on that 1 little 10%er… Even though it feel so bad to reject ourselves & strengthen the negative neural pathways! Just crazy!!

  • Devonschwaab

    Good for you Joey…I don’t know your age but I am awed that you have taken in the wisdom of the Universe for yourself in time for you to bring it to others.

  • Deanna

    It is just now that I am finding Im a really cool person and should not change who I am… Im so glad you are able to find this knowledge early in life…. 

    Im also glad to see you are passionate about ending human trafficking, there is much work to be done in this field.

  • sueb

    Thank you so much for this article!!  I am learning self-acceptance right now through circumstances in my life, and it is very freeing.  I have come to understand the saying, “You are the one you have been waiting for.”  Just allow yourself to be you.

  • Sweettoothmich

    I loved your article.  I tend to be a people pleaser as you were and find that in doing that, it leaves me no time nor energy to please myself.  Now that I am divorced and also living a more authentic life, I do wonder if being single is the only way to be able to concentrate on pleasing myself or if I will be able to find a way to be in a relationship and still be able to please both my partner AND myself.

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