You Are Exactly Where You Need To Be

Jennifer KassYou are exactly where you need to be. Because in every moment you can choose love over fear. And change your life.

Whether you are flying high right now or feeling despair, it is all perfect because the universe brings up and lines us up with whatever we need to grow and expand even more into the fullness of who we really are. Growing pains are real!

The closer we get to our dreams, our heart’s desires, the more painful it is for the ego and the old fear-based stories that it held onto so closely, because it knows that it’s losing its grip and it will have to fall away completely as we move forward. Resistance is part of the process. How we handle this resistance, which can appear to be a backwards motion, a regression to old patterns and habits, or just frozen in fear, is how we shift up to the next gear and experience another growth spurt. This is how we grow in leaps and bounds.

When I hit my rough patches, if I had known what was on the other side of them, I never would have suffered–not even for a moment.

Trusting the process and knowing that it was never going to be a straight linear line of growth, but rather one that ebbed and flowed, because sometimes the ego would come in and other times it would sit quietly in the backseat where it belonged, was something I started to learn as I came out of my biggest challenges. I came to realize that no matter how hard the current circumstance seemed, if I showed up differently for this spiritual assignment that was given to me, I could turn it all around–and fast. The universe will give to us a lesson as many times as it needs to in order to teach us what we need to learn–it’s not punishment, it’s for the purpose of our soul’s evolution (Click to tweet)–and a pattern within us will reappear until we finally release it with our sincere desire and willingness to let it go.

The freedom and flow of life right on the other side of fear, pain, and struggle is unimaginable and it’s the reward that awaits us for pushing past the illusions that kept us stuck for so long. When we slay our dragons, we realize we were also the creators of them; the story that we were a victim and powerless over any of it drops and we begin creating our happy dream from the clarity of love and empowerment.

The idea now is to become very conscious of what we’re thinking and how we’re feeling so that we can begin to float above the drama and the tantrums of our ego and watch and observe what is coming up for us, but not be a part of its story anymore. When we know that only love is real, we can watch the ego rather than let it aggressively pull us back down into the trenches. And now is the time to look at everything courageously, leaving no dark corner untouched by the light of your loving perceptions.

Recognize your limiting patterns, look your fears in the face and any feelings of lack and unworthiness, and choose to see and do things differently–from love rather than fear this time. This is the spiritual teaching applied and brought into action in your life–intellectual understanding without experiential understanding is nothing. We show up for ourselves every day and in every moment in our lives and have a choice to do it the old way or try the new way because the old way clearly isn’t working, by which we pioneer our new path. We can’t take everything with us. We have to travel light because this time we are free of our burdens and we’re going to fly.

Love,

Jennifer

Love,

Jennifer

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As a holistic happiness coach and spiritual mentor, Jennifer Kass guides clients worldwide in her one-on-one transformational coaching programs, using practical spiritual tools that provide a gateway to inner happiness and a holistic approach that integrates diet + lifestyle changes, for a radical shift. Jennifer shares her message through weekly vlogs, live events, one-on-one coaching, as a writer for well-known blogs, and in TV and radio appearances. Connect via her websiteFacebook and Twitter.

  • Tara

    Thank u…love being reminded of this. I’m getting closer ❤️

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for reading and sharing, Tara! -TDL Team

    • Jennifer Kass

      Yes!! Thank you, Tara. xo

  • Carolin Poni

    I love all your articles and posts, I feel like you are speaking directly to me and it’s exactly what I need to hear. THANK YOU.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks, Carolin! -TDL Team

    • Jennifer Kass

      I love that, Carolin! Thank you for sharing! You’re on your path!! xo

  • Fé Avouglan

    beautiful message! thank you…i want to act out of love!

    • The Daily Love

      That’s a great space to be in! -TDL Team

    • Jennifer Kass

      The more you act from love, the better things will get. Work it! xo

  • Dan

    Ego is a sneaky critter… your words bring me back to myself and show how destructive ego can be…..Thank you.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks, Dan! -TDL Team

    • Jennifer Kass

      Love that this brings you back to yourself, Dan. xo

  • David H. Breaux

    Hello Jennifer,

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom. Always appreciate the truth you convey.

    With compassion,
    David H. Breaux

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks, as always, for reading, David! Have a great week! -TDL Team

    • Jennifer Kass

      Thank you, David! xo

  • x

    are you sure? i’ve been in a state of constant worry… wishing i chose another major, disappointing my parents while thousands of dollars are being spent… but i guess my soul chose it and i need to learn what i need to learn. thanks for the reminder that im at where i need to be now and i will turn it over to God…

    • Jennifer Kass

      Yes, it doesn’t mean you have to stay where you are. The idea is move out of feeling like a victim and into a place of empowerment realizing that you can make a choice in any moment to listen to your inner guide and if that means redirecting your sail–so it is. Many times we find ourselves in challenging situations giving us an opportunity to bounce higher knowing now what we don’t want which helps us to clarity what we DO want. Xo

  • Sarina C. Oden

    I needed this today…I have been trying to start something new in my life and I feel like I am doing so much that it’s too much for me to handle but this is a reminder that I exactly where I am suppose to be and that I just need to breath through the process and just relax….thank you for your words!!!! Xoxoxo

  • Talya Price

    I am glad I read this today. I have been feeling stuck lately. One of my friends has moved to Berlin and is starting a new life and I am jealous of her. Since she has told me about her big plans, I have been feeling resentment toward her and I do not like it. She is a very nice person, but I don’t want to hear her gushing about her “perfect” life. I was there for her when her ex bf broke up with her because he cheated. And now I feel like I am just stuck and repressed. Where is my good news? I sometimes wish I never met my ex boyfriend and never left Australia and move to Poland to be with him. I am tired of living here, I am bored with the culture and the people. And I am sick of hearing the language. I have no one to talk with nor anyone to really connect with. And there are moments when I feel that I will never leave this country and never evolve. I have this feeling that the grass is greener on the other side. I just want to move forward, and I have a tendency to grow very impatient. And I am lonely, I find the Warsaw a very lonely city. I do really know anyone here. My dream is to move to Paris in search of artistic inspiration and live like a bohemian. It sounds crazy but that is all I want to do.

    • Aurelio

      Hey, Talya… Thank you for sharing your honest feelings and being vulnerable here… I appreciate it… I won’t offer any “words of wisdom”… just my gratitude for hearing you share your heart…
      LOve,
      Aurelio.

  • Aurelio

    Thank you so much Jennifer for this post today… It really hit home for me… I’m healing from a heartbreak due to a whirlwind and passionate affair where the two of us each told each other, “You are the love of my life”… However, she found a dealbreaker that she couldn’t deal with in the fact that I pay a significant chunk of my income to my ex-wife as alimony…
    It seems as if the Universe did set this us perfectly… like the Titanic on her maiden voyage right in the path of an iceberg…
    But it certainly has tested my values and allowed me to stick to Who I Really Am… no matter the cost…
    LOve,
    Aurelio.

  • xnavygal

    My Higher Power does indeed allow me to continue making the same mistake until I learn . it is only when I become willing and get out of my own way ..then I learn.