Let me say it again.
You are worthy of love.
What happens inside when you read that statement?
Does your heart open up and do you breathe a sigh of relief?
Or do you immediately say to yourself “yeah right” and shut down?
For years I cringed inside when anyone suggested I was worthy of love.
I really wanted to believe it was true and felt I “should love myself”, but deep inside I felt so unworthy.
I thought that everything about me had to change in order for me to be worthy of love.
When I lost the weight, then I would be worthy. When I wasn’t so self-conscious, when I had the career I wanted, when I was more interesting…the list went on and on.
Underneath it all was a deeply limiting belief:
When I was perfect I would be worthy of love. Until then, I didn’t really deserve it.
Until one day, somebody told me about the sun. And they said: the sun shines equally on everything on the planet. It doesn’t pick and choose where to shine its rays based on how good or bad things are. It just gives its warmth equally.
And this got me thinking.
Maybe love was like the sun.
And maybe it had been shining on me all along, I just couldn’t see it.
My rain clouds of unworthiness had been blocking it from coming in.
So I made a decision. I decided to look with the eyes of love and pay attention to all of the love that was coming in. And each time I felt love I would say to myself, “Nicole, you have this love because you deserve it.”
Pretty soon I started to feel more worthy. Not because anything about me changed, but because I made a decision to let it in.
Have you decided that you are not worthy of love right now because you have to do or be something before you deserve it?
If so, please consider that the only thing you have to do is allow yourself to be loved right now, just as you are. And the only thing you have to be is you.
Think of a newborn baby. Would you ever think this to yourself: “That baby doesn’t deserve love. It’s not perfect.”
I’m guessing no.
You would probably say that even if it cries and spits and screams, that little baby deserves all the love in the world.
Guess what? You’re just a grown up baby. You were worthy of love from the moment you were born and that hasn’t changed.
You are worthy of love simply because you are here.
Love is all around you and when you remove the blocks of unworthiness and decide you deserve it just because, it will show up in miraculous ways.
Will you let it in?
Nicole Moore, Love & Relationship Coach and founder of Love Works, helps women unlock their hearts and create lasting love. Nicole coaches women to break free from their romantic fears so they can love with an open heart. She teaches women the art of self-care, feminine communication and simple mindset shifts so they can finally create the love and life they desire. Nicole received her Life Coaching Certification from NYU. www.loveworksmethod.com