So many people run around looking for someone “to complete them.” But the thing is, we are all just fallible human beings, so no one will ever complete you or live up to your expectations.
That is why it is so important to keep our eyes on The Uni-verse and Its Love for us. The Love of The Uni-verse never changes. Other people change, other people mess up, but The Uni-verse is constantly on our side, Loving us and showing us how we can grow even closer to happiness and Love.
Our aim should be to not seek and chase for Love, but to BE IT. This means self-love first. True Love isn’t setting HUGE expectations of someone else that they always make you happy and fulfilled.
True Love is being so full of self-love and the Love of The Uni-verse that you have more than enough Love to hold your own darkness and light and the darkness and light of the other people. True Love is radical acceptance of yourself and the person you are in a relationship with. (Tweet-worthy!)
To look for someone to complete you is to deny your innate potential to be an already full and integrated being. You are giving someone else a power that only you have.
The Jerry McGuire type of Love can happen, but it’s a setup for all kinds of dysfunction. We have no idea how they did after the movie ended, do we?
Also, making someone else the source of your fulfillment means that if they are not having a good day, acting in integrity or desiring to grow, then you are stuck. It’s a giant anchor holding you down.
In relationship, we either grow together or we grow apart. The Uni-verse is constantly guiding us to greater and greater awareness or ourselves and, as a result, our Highest Potential. Relationships are containers for growth, not containers for proving how much pain you can endure for someone else.
When we make it someone else’s responsibility to complete us, it is easy to blame them, but the blame really belongs on us for giving them that power in the first place.
Let’s take our power back and take our eyes off of ourselves and our partners and remember the Source from which we came and which we are all a part of right now. We are a drop of water coming home to the beautiful ocean from which we came. In doing so, we can merge into a wave and do far more connected to this Source than we ever could do alone or with another person.
How can you take your power back today?
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Love and self-love from Maui,
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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.
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