Your job is to Love!

Love is an action, a choice. Love is not really an emotion.

To Love someone is to choose to show up to be devoted to The Divine through that person.

So often in life these days we think that Love is easy or that Love only feels good, but that is not the full extent of what Love is – especially relationship Love.

People think that relationship Love is something that must mask your true feelings, it must always be a euphoric high of some kind or that Love must be a trade.

But that’s not what Love is.

Love is a constant offering to serve to Heart of the person you are in a relationship with. Love is a constant surrendering of your protective ego, so that the Heart can open even more and show you the unknown beauty of its depths.

Love transcends language, religion and belief systems. Love is the deepest gift that we could ever be given by someone and it’s the greatest gift that we could ever give ourselves.

Love is not a trade. Love is not a power trip. Love is not some grandiose expression of infatuation. Love is a humble and subtle power that guides us to grow into titans of giving.

Love asks us to see beyond the fear of our partner, to dive deeper than their ego would want us to and to not leave, even when all that is triggering us wants us to run.

Love shows up when fear is present and asks for more… Love is bigger, Love is brighter, Love is more powerful than any other force in the Uni-verse, because at the core of every cell in the Uni-verse is the deep yearning and desire to Love and be Loved.

Love does not march in with pomp and circumstance. Love whispers. Love silently beckons us to get over ourselves so that we can see the beauty that lay within us and every other sacred soul.

We were not sent to judge, for judgment is just a request for Love. We were sent to Love the parts of ourselves and the world that lack it. We were sent to be the Love in the seeming void of Love.

We, indeed, are the answer. No one is coming, for we have already come.

Our job is to wake up to Love and then be it.

Our job is to Love.

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  • tc

    Oh. My. That was raw. Not sure if it’s bcos I’m PMS which makes things worse but that was the best blog you’ve ever written (i cried some while reading). It is so true Mastin. I mean I’m sure it could be added too here & there from different peoples views & experiences which is always rewarding, but what you have written here is your best piece yet (you can hang your boots up & retire now hahaha- mission accomplished ;-).

    This is where I’m at too. Done the 360 to heal myself & my eyes have been so opened along the way, but I do believe, kind sir, that when you reach this stage it is only then that you can truly help others. Good on you Mr Kipp, & keep up all your good work. Loving it. Many smiles 🙂

  • Guest

    Today I love everything.  I love my debt, I love my hair, I love all people in my life that I used to find hurtful or irritating.

  • Agree with everything except “Love is not an emtion”. Cummon, who are we trying to kid? Ourselves? 😀

  • Mastin – beautifully written! i just read a chapter of Marianne Williamson’s The Law of Divine Compensation this morning – and you picked right up on the theme of love.

    Why do we fool ourselves into thinking there is an answer simpler or more effective than love? I fool myself every day 😉

    One problem is that we judge ourselves so much, that we forget to love ourselves. I had a funny moment of insight yesterday during my daily Moment of YES. For anyone trying to make time to meditate or listen each day – maybe you can relate:

    Have a wonderful day!


  • Gunverhelbo

    Thanks Mastin
    Just what I needed to hear today and very well spoken. A late but nevertheless a very Happy New Year to you.
    Much Love to you

  • Lisa

    ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL!  The single most inspiring individual  piece  I have EVER read…..(somewhere in here, there may be a greeting card verse or two)  🙂

  • Jackie S

    Thank you for the post! I started the day with an intention to LOVE and be patient with myself as I continue down my journey of fully loving myself. This was a great reminder of what love truly is! 
    Have a beautiful Monday!
    Love Jackie

  • Tiffany

    The greatest way I can honor my mom through love.

  • Evelyn Anido

    This post is by far one of the most INFLUENTIAL and EXPRESSIVE posts I have read. In itself, you have revealed the true meaning and POWER of LOVE. People have different ways of expressing and showing love, but at the end of the day…LOVE is all we want. It truly is “an action, a choice.” Thank you for the clear view and reminder!
    MUCH Love,

  • MissDavis007

    Job well done on this post… As God word says, “three things will last forever- faith, hope and love- and the greatest of these is love.” Thank you for emphasizing how important it is to show up everyday in our own lives and to love ourselves and the world around us.

  • TDK

    I’ve been reading for awhile and this is a fabulous post!  Figuring out what LOVE is, has been a passion of mine for awhile…my favorite definition of Love is from M Scott Peck “Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth… Love is as love does. Love is an act of will — namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.”  For 14 years, I tried to love my alcholoic/addict husband, but what I was really doing was enabling him.  It wasn’t until years 14-16 that I learned to love myself through spiritual growth and in turn learned to love him as well…what ended up happening  was me sitting in a car asking the divine to give me the words prior to sitting an office with him, his addiction counselor and our family counselor.  The divine came through and I quoted Mr. Peck’s defintion of love as I told him I was filing for divorce.  I believed/know that I did not what my family to be torn apart, however I loved myself and him enough to know that he could not get clean while we were together and as painful and hard as it was, divorcing him was the most Loving action I could take.  And guess what….he’s been clean about 1.5 years…The first time in 18 years and it took a HUGE act of LOVE that most of the world might not view as LOVE, but I do.  Love your blog! 

  • Beautifully said Mastin.  Thanks for putting this delicious message out into the world today.  

  • CJ


  • Yes-and in this moment-I am asking myself, can I really be that big? It is easy to love people that understand you and love you back…but the real test of a spiritual warrior is to love the very people who ARE NOT loving you back. Who are full of judgement and blame. I have been avoiding someone in my family for quite sometime now. Yes, I said…AVOIDING. And, after going to my Living Love Class yesterday, I clearly see that I have been serving fear. My mind so cleverly had convinced me otherwise. After all, I did have EVERY excuse in the book. Just not The Universal-Law book. Rumi’s quote is perfect for me today, “Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field-I’ll meet you there.” My job is to stop being so, “RIGHT,” and see their innocence. And, be BIG. To go over to their home and give myself a chance to shine my inner light with hopes that they recognize theirs. To play the game of “Spiritual Aikido.” To not stand in the line of fire, but to duck and bend. If I can master this…I can master anything. This I know is true. Please keep me in your prayers. Thanks Mastin! 
    The Daily Commenter,

    • Most days I open my mentor’s (Cinnamon Lofton) book, “Here, Now” and this couldn’t be more perfect for the post today…”FREEDOM IS THE REWARD FOR UNCONDITIONAL LOVING.”  I say, “AMEN!”

  • Kaysha Kosman

    Spot on, Mastin!  Woke up and set my intention for the day to practice love – loving – being love.  Divine timing to expand today’s intention!

  • Donovan Owens

    This is my first time getting one of your emails and reading your blog and: I’m in the right place.  Thank you for the powerful message today.

  • India Dunn

    Huge HEART OPENING!! Wow! Thank you, you ROCK!

  • Jayh86

    why isnt there audio anymore?

  • Em

    This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you, Mastin!

  • Erika

    Beautifully written and expressed. Thank you for this. I think this will be most helpful to all the people who come across it. I hope this is going in the book!!

  • Kristine Lauder

    HANDS DOWN ONE OF MY FAVORITE TDL BLOGS OF ALL TIME!!! So beautifully written. Thank you for your inspiring words every day.

  • SLM

    I could read this every day. Perfect, beautiful truth.

  • Bailey Brianne

    Mastin this is absolutely brilliant. It is almost poetic in a way as well and just truly hits home. I want to read this at my wedding one day. It’s beautiful.


    Thank You Mastin!

  • Bcallen09

    Ok, pardon my french! But DAAAMMN Mastin!!! This blog is everything to me right now! You just hit the nail on the head, and what an awesome revelation. You ROCK!

  • 2yoshimi

    Mastin you just hit the ball waaaay out of the park.

  • christine

    Hi , This whole idea resonates with what I have been bringing to my relationship with my daughter,  TEEN DAUGHTER, love is a choice I have to make everyday even before my eyes are open.  Yes and some days it is challenging to show up committed to the act of loving her when she is showing me her worse side…and maybe me, her.  But I must keep committed because in that lies the true gold…true love…understanding, commitment  kindness, honesty, compassion, listening….and more.  Thanks for being a voice for so many of us.  May you be blessed!

  • I’m struggling right now with loving myself vs. loving someone else… aka my current romantic partner.  Or should I say ex-romantic partner.  

    I’ve been going back and forth in my head if I should stay in this relationship or end it.  I knew it would come down to me, not him.  The final confirmation for me came this past weekend.  He was out of town for 2 1/2 days.  And I was SO HAPPY!  I LOVED having my house back.  I loved living alone again (as I did for 12 years before he moved in).  I felt light and happy.  And the final straw was today when he came home.  When I saw his car pull up, I felt my stomach sink.  I did not want him to be home already. 

    But here’s where I struggle:  I do love him.  We’ve been together a little over 2 years.  We’ve been through ups and downs and almost broke up twice before, but decided to stick with it and things got great.  There are good qualities about him.  And at the same time, there are things that I don’t believe I want to “deal with” indefinitely.  Nothing “major.”  But it’s that feeling inside me.  That feeling, that “knowing” that I’d rather be alone.  I LIKE living alone.  I always have.  I’m a highly independent, introverted person.  This is the first guy I’ve ever lived with.  It was great for a while.  But the past few months I’ve seen it decline (again). 

    And I wondered, how much should a relationship go up and down?  Shouldn’t I WANT to be with the person I’m with?  At least most of the time?  Shouldn’t I WANT to put in the work to be with that person?  Shouldn’t I RATHER live WITH That person than without them?  I think so. 

    But I struggle with the love.  I struggle with giving up what’s good.  I struggle with “letting go” and LOVING someone, when I feel that conflicts with doing what I need to do for me. 
    I know I hurt my boyfriend by telling him I wanted to live alone.  I did it as lovingly as I could.  I told him that I was NOT angry with him, or upset, or faulted him in any way.  I told him I loved him.  But that it was ME and I believe just how I’m made, that I prefer to live alone.  I honestly have no hard feelings towards him, and I know it’s rare for BOTH people to end a relationship with no hard feelings.  I could have let the relationship go on longer.  But I know.  I know I was ready to be done.  I was ready to be out and free again.  Not so I could date anyone else, but so I could be ME. 

    Still, it makes me sad.  And I hope I don’t regret what I’ve done. 
    It’s a strange combination of KNOWING, and yet having that tiniest bit of doubt. 

    • Brendalrodgers

      Thank you for sharing; I am in a similar situation; however, I do and I don’t like living alone. I wished I could tell you my story but this is all so new to me.  My oldest daughter keeps sending me this site and finally tonight I take a look at it.  Knowing that I need help but do not know how to ask or who to ask….

      • Brenda,

        Keep going!  Trust me, you’ll get PAST the fear and things WILL feel better!  I’m there now.  I was scared for a while, but now I’m good again.  Better than I’ve been in a long time, actually.  The key is to KEEP GOING!  Get through the scared times, so you can get TO the happy times!  If you feel you need more professional help, I encourage you to seek out a therapist or other professional in your area.  Those people really can help too! 

        Keep your head up, regardless!  Tune in to YOUR spirit and YOUR heart.  You’ll make it through this time in your life and come out stronger and better for it!  Believe me!


  • For some of us, loving ourselves in a healthy way is a bigger challenge than loving others. “We were sent to Love the parts of ourselves and the world that lack it.” This has been one of my more recent bits of awareness as well as a primary intention I read daily as part of my new plans for 2013. If we’re fragmented internally, it’s tough to really be there for others. This internal work is ours and cannot be outsourced

  • Irina Maleeva

    That is a wonderful thinking and I wish we all can feel that way .  Irina Maleeva

  • Linaken

    I wanted to let you all know of the results of the spell cast with [email protected], even though its only been 3days now!!! Jason called me up today wanting to know when I was going to meet with him as he was wanting to speak with me about something, but wouldn’t tell me over the phone. I went to meet him and YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVE the change in him! Its like night and day. We talked about our relationship and how much he could not stand to be away from me and how he wanted to be in a relationship with me. He even said the 3 words to me that I wanted to hear “I LOVE YOU”! I have to tell you all, this I would never have believed if I had not seen it for myself. I am so happy God lead me to [email protected]. Thank you again for everything!

  • Jo

    What a beautiful LOVE-letter. Its like reading the modern version of Shakespears sonnet 116. Truly beautiful <3

  • Adriana

    Just plain beautiful, Mastin

  • bertavsl

    wonderful words!