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You’re Not Crazy! Trust Yourself!

chrisassaadToo often in life we second-guess ourselves. We have a funny feeling or a hunch and we don’t listen, only to later realize we were right on the money. This has happened to me many times, and I’ve seen it on countless occasions with friends and clients. Whether it’s an inner knowing that someone we’re dating is no good for us or a sixth sense about which route to take on our drive home from work, we are constantly getting feedback from our internal guidance system and from the world around us, and yet so often we tune it out.

One of the areas where I’ve been seeing this most lately is where spirituality and the realm of the unseen is concerned. All of us have had some experience that reveals to us or hints at the mysteries of life, the presence of Divine forces, the interconnectedness of all beings and a greater meaning in the unfolding of our lives.

And yet we question them and we question ourselves.

We think, “No that wasn’t a sign; I must be imagining things. Or maybe I’m just going crazy.”

We discount the synchronicities as coincidences, we close ourselves off to our connection with the Divine, we say our prayer only half believing it will be heard, let alone answered, and we limit ourselves to a very narrow conception of what life is really all about.

Why do we this?

Mostly, I believe we are scared of being right because it means we have to do something about it. It’s been said that with great knowledge comes great responsibility and when it comes to spiritual wisdom, the weight of what has been revealed to us can be especially daunting. Each seed carries the promise of a beautiful, blossoming flower but we must water it, nurture it and share its splendor with others. With each lesson learned and insight gained, we are called to go deeper and to be a living example of the wisdom we have acquired. Many would rather live in the so-called bliss of ignorance.

True bliss, however, comes from following your heart and listening to the voice of your soul. And sometimes, the path they point towards leads us to dark and unfamiliar places. This is another reason we deny our connection to the Divine and doubt our spiritual experiences, because we’re afraid of where they will take us. We are afraid of what certain people will think of us if we share our stories and experiences, if we shine our light and claim our Divine inheritance of an extraordinary  life. We are afraid of the challenges we will face along the way to our destiny and to our highest potential.

And so we deny, we ignore, we tune out, we discount, we disconnect. All of this amounts to the same basic tendency: second-guessing ourselves and our deeper knowing, our intuition, or our gut feeling. And when we do this, we miss out on the connection to the Truth that is present within us and all around us. We miss out on the gifts of life, the magic and the mystery.

Not only that, but in the absence of rock-solid-faith in and within ourselves, no amount of external validation or Grace can really penetrate our experience and impact us because our seeds of doubt will always hinder our ability to receive and allow them in.

I felt moved to write this to you because I keep hearing people I love and care about expressing their doubts about the Grace that’s been showing up in their lives, the Divinely inspired experiences they have had and the Truth that’s being spoken to them from the voice within.  I’ve witnessed so many instances of intuition being discounted and opportunities missed. And most of all, I’ve seen hearts close and deny their inherent desire to give love unconditionally. I hesitated for a second and then decided to listen to the voice within me and write this for anyone who might need to hear it.

If that’s you, I want to tell you that the synchronicities are real. The voice of your soul that’s calling you to greatness is real. The Divine forces you feel are real. Your prayers are being heard and answered, you might just be distracted by the noise of doubt to hear the answer and to allow the blessings into your life. The connection you feel and the sixth senses you have are real. And your wildest dreams. You guessed it. Those are real, too.

So believe it. Don’t waste another moment doubting or second-guessing what you know deep down inside you to be true. Live courageously and cast your fears aside. Open yourself up to the full spectrum of human experiences that are awaiting you and allow the spiritual essence that is present within us all to guide you. Ask your question sincerely and listen carefully for the reply. It will come. Let down the walls around your heart and love wholeheartedly. You will feel a love and warmth greater than anything you’ve ever experienced. Say your prayer with unshakeable faith and wait for the answer. You will be blessed beyond your wildest dreams.

You’re not crazy. Trust yourself.

Much love,

CA

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Chris Assaad is a singer/songwriter and inspirational artist from Toronto who left a promising career in law several years ago to pursue his dream of a career in music. Since then, Chris has been actively using his voice to enCOURAGE others to follow their dreams, express their creativity and live life to the fullest.

Connect with Chris via www.chrisassaad.com, Twitter and Facebook.

Chris is also a member of the TDL Mentoring team. To learn more about the TDL Mentoring Program click here .
  • http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

    I totally agree.  And I’m also guilty of ignoring that inner knowing.  It’s funny (synchronistic perhaps?) that I just wrote a blog about this yesterday in fact (http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/02/dont-ignore-what-you-know.html).  About how, specifically in relationships, I ignore my inner knowing voice.  I talk myself into liking someone, or convince myself that I could be happy with someone, only to (surprise, surprise) not have it work out months or years down the line. 

    I think you’re right that when people (myself included) don’t listen to that inner voice, it’s out of fear.  We WANT to go down a certain path, we WANT something to work out, yet we *know* it’s *not quite right.*  Still, our wanting is so great, we give it a shot anyway. 

    I’ve also found that when we push and force something, it’s not going to turn out well.  If we have to force something, then it’s not meant to be.  If it were meant to be, it would HAPPEN!  We wouldn’t have to step in… butt into the Universe’s perfect plan and say, “Excuse me!  I know better!  THIS is how it’s supposed to be!” 
    I’ve done this with jobs on a few occasions.  I’ve pushed for a certain job, only to regret it later and wish I just gave it up to the Universe and accepted what I was given, trusting that THAT was what was best for me. 

    It’s hard sometimes… of course it is, otherwise everyone would do it… but letting go and listening to our inner Spirit really is the key to our greatest happiness! 

    Thanks for another great post!  :)  

    Sarah
    http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/02/live-for-audience-of-one.html

    • Michael

      Thanks Sarah,

      I needed that!

      Michael

    • Becks

      Amen Sarah, I can totally relate. How many times do we chase and chase after something/one thinking it’s what we really want, only for things to just happen naturally without any forcing when something is really meant to be? A reminder I definately needed!

  • http://dyannebrown.com/ dyannebrown

    Chris, I want to first say Thank You for writing this. The Divine was truly working through you and I felt the power and passion of your words as I read it. I’m actually in tears. I’ve been going back and forth in my mind over the past few weeks trying to figure out if I should keep trying to pursue my dreams. Literally, in the last two weeks, five different people have told me that I see greatness in my future and they are see me reaching my dreams. Yet, I was still trying to talk myself out of it. And then this morning, I visited TDL and clicked on your link. And I felt blessed as if all my doubts were being answered. Thank you for writing this. I can’t thank you enough. 

    • Lulu Asaraei

      All of you guys just spoke my heart. It is funny that I have known this fact for so long now( you should not have to force something if it is meant to be and if it really is your heart and souls desire) but I do it again and again, my control freak personality, the habit of taking everything in my ego’s hand makes me want a certain outcome, obsessing over something that I THINK it’s what is meant to be and what is my soul intended. And yet again once things get bad and I find myself getting tortured by my own ego, I get slapped by the universe saying wake up! I told you the day you met this guy quietly; he is not for you.. And you decided to go for it and give it a chance anyways, because you thought you might miss a good chance with a “great” guy.. The clue is that if something pop in your way, and you hold your hand to grab it and it’s not falling in your hand, and you have to run after it, means that it was just a trigger, it was not mean to be. But the issue here is for me still; I get confused that which one is my soul’s whisper and which one is my obsession and my ego triggering me, which one is my outcome goal oriented capricorn personality and which one is the real thing that is coming from the above. I am currently in the middle of breaking up with a guy that I was debating to go out with for a month that had warning signs of past experiences, but my friends told me, that I have a big ego and you are going by your list and that is not a way to find love, he might be the one, I didn’t know if my heart was telling me don’t or it was my ego, and I couldn’t stop thinking about him, finally I decided to do it, and as soon as I did, even though we connected perfectly at first, right the day after some crazy things happened that ruined everything, I wont go to details, but ever since then I feel like I have to prove myself to him and I have been trying and trying to feel good about it, but I couldn’t, I still didn’t know if my ego is standing in my way, and wanting things that is not suppose to want and let things go with the flow(since i was being called”demanding” all the time by hi), or is it the universe telling me that you should have listened to your heart and trust me, let it go…Finally I am at the stage that my soul is tired and I don’t have anymore energy to try to make things good and stop feeling there is something missing and don’t “want” too much from him… And as I was thinking this, he told me he is going to a long trip out of country for work.. Universe was speaking and helping me.. This is what happens, when you do something you were meant to do for your soul, universe backs you up..Of course since then I’ve been going back and forth cause the door is still open as he is away, but I know in my heart this has served its purpose, and fear of not feeling that way again is trying hard to hold on to what it has right now..Thank you guys for reminding me today, a heart needs a reminder everyday how important it is…

  • Nora

    Great topic, beautifully written post!

    Much love!

  • Michelle Crowley

    Thank you Chris!  Synchronicities keep coming my way and I sometimes forget what they are.  Thanks for reminding me to grasp them with full confidence!
    Love,
    michelle crowley

  • TL

    That was beautifully written! Thank you for saying what is in your heart and sharing it with the world. I started my Sunday morning reading this article and reaffirming that anything can happen as long as you have unwavering belief and listen to your heart by being in tune with what the universe is telling you. Sending you love and light, TL

  • Matea

    love this article, I hope and pray to listen to my  voice, to do what I know deep inside is right, not easier…It may be harder to listen to your intuition but I know somehow that in the long run I will benefit from it, and only from that, peace and strenght to you Chris, so grateful for u<3

  • Eikcaj33

    Right on the mark!

  • Eikcaj33

    Imagine a life/world where everyone listened 2spirit?

  • Ella

    Thank you. Some of us just need to hear that to move forward in our dreams.

  • Damascus Girl

    I can’t believe I’m reading this.  I thought I was the only one who pondered such questions!  Lately, I have been thinking about this very subject, too.  I have focused more on my dreams, and whether the Divine is whispering to me while I sleep.  I try to write down any dreams I remember and then read them a few days later to gain understanding and inspiration.  Unlike you, however, I have seen only negative forces operate in my life the last few years — and I question the Divine about them.  I am reluctant to accept these negative forces (by negative forces I mean events that are leading me away from what my heart desires and soul yearns for) as my destiny, but intuitively I wonder if God is giving me the signs I need to succumb to “what is”, to accept, to just be.  The latter prospect hurts me, and somewhere inside I want to believe that it is not true…that is why I have started examining my dreams.  I keep a notepad by my bed, and if I have a vivid dream (as opposed to those crazy mumbo-jumbo dreams that we all have!) then I write it down. 
    I know God takes our souls when we sleep, and returns them to us when we wake.  He protects us while we sleep, and perhaps during that time our souls are mingling with other souls, too.  “Hey don’t I know you from somewhere?” Lol.  This is all part of my spiritual process, but ya sometimes it can be seen as a murky area and perceived as merely hocus-pocus.  I am a very practical and logical person so I feel that I have a good balance in my approach.
    Who knows?
    But thank you so much for putting a voice to my feelings and thoughts!
    from a fellow Canuck (did you see the Leafs game last night?)

  • Maxen

    Thank you Chris !

  • Sarcasticallysour

    Wow what a confirmation for me..I know all if what you write is true…and I have lost site of listening to my inner divine. But I am on my way back and it has so changed the course of things in my life. Thank you for sharing this and making it clear for me that I am back on my path to being a better me and a better life for my kids. Lots of love to you and blessings.

  • Guest

    This is exactly what I needed. 
    At the beginning of this year, I awoke knowing that I needed to get out of my relationship. My Truth was whispering to me that I was not honoring myself. Although the person I was dating was a nice individual who I loved dearly, everything inside of me was saying that the relationship was no longer serving me. I felt unhealthy and exhausted, and I recognized that if I continued to stay in the relationship things would only get worse, and I would eventually lose myself and my voice. When I made the decision, I felt completely confident. Of course, with any break up comes hurt, confusion, and grief. All of these emotions sent my mind into a spiral. I felt bad for causing another individual hurt, and almost immediately I started questioning the decision. All sorts of crazy thoughts arose about things I could have done differently. I felt at times like maybe I hadn’t given the relationship my best, and that there were other things I could have tried to mend the problems in the relationship. I have tortured myself with these thoughts on and off for the past two months. What made the chatter in my mind even worse is that I didn’t get the closure I had wanted from the individual I was seeing, so I had many unanswered questions. Finally within the past week, my mind has calmed and I can feel the awareness from my heart that I made the right decision for me. Although I didn’t get the closure that I had wanted, there is closure in knowing that I honored myself wholly and truly… and even though it caused someone else hurt, truly listening to my inner voice and acting on it is a form of compassion towards myself and all of the individuals in my life. I am at peace knowing that I showed up in the relationship offering everything that was available to give. I was willing to make myself seen, even though there was great risk. Most importantly though, I have peace knowing that I was able to love another person while still honoring my true self. I think that there is power in listening to ourselves and our intuition. It is hardly ever the easiest path, but I think that as we exercise the ability to make decisions that we feel are right based off of our intuition, it becomes easier. The fear and uncertainty lessen as we learn to trust ourselves. 

  • sueb

    This has never been more true than it is for me right now.  Made some decisions against my gut and now I am having to scramble to protect myself and to get to where I knew I needed to be all along.  Thanks for the encouraging words!

  • Becks

    Thank you so much for this Chris! I was just reading Mastin’s latest blog about the journey from the head to heart, and instead of feeling inspired and uplifted (like I usually do), I felt very disappointed. I’ve been ‘On the path’ working on myself, reading lots of helpful books and meditating almost daily for over 6 months now and I have come NOWHERE near close to experiencing any of that bliss or connection to my heart I hear Mastin and others speak of. I KNOW I shouldn’t compare my journey to anothers, yet I can’t help feeling sad & disappointed when it’s ‘not happening’ for me.
    Anyway, your post was really what I needed to hear today, in particular about there being no amount of grace & external validation that can penetrate if you’re doubting yourself and the universe. Thank you again, much love.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100005060892358 Eveline Almeida

    That’s totally true. But I often try to confirm the voice to check if I’m not just paranoid. Sometimes we do have some negative voice in our heads too, so I always stop, silence myself, close my eyes, quiet my mind, release the tension so I can tell if it’s the negative voice or if it’s truly my inner voice.

  • Danubelle

    All of you guys just spoke my heart. It is funny that I have known this fact for so long now( you should not have to force something if it is meant to be and if it really is your heart and souls desire) but I do it again and again, my control freak personality, the habit of taking everything in my ego’s hand makes me want a certain outcome, obsessing over something that I THINK it’s what is meant to be and what is my soul intended. And yet again once things get bad and I find myself getting tortured by my own ego, I get slapped by the universe saying wake up! I told you the day you met this guy quietly; he is not for you.. And you decided to go for it and give it a chance anyways, because you thought you might miss a good chance with a “great” guy.. The clue is that if something pop in your way, and you hold your hand to grab it and it’s not falling in your hand, and you have to run after it, means that it was just a trigger, it was not mean to be. But the issue here is for me still; I get confused that which one is my soul’s whisper and which one is my obsession and my ego triggering me, which one is my outcome goal oriented capricorn personality and which one is the real thing that is coming from the above. I am currently in the middle of breaking up with a guy that I was debating to go out with for a month that had warning signs of past experiences, but my friends told me, that I have a big ego and you are going by your list and that is not a way to find love, he might be the one, I didn’t know if my heart was telling me don’t or it was my ego, and I couldn’t stop thinking about him, finally I decided to do it, and as soon as I did, even though we connected perfectly at first, right the day after some crazy things happened that ruined everything, I wont go to details, but ever since then I feel like I have to prove myself to him and I have been trying and trying to feel good about it, but I couldn’t, I still didn’t know if my ego is standing in my way, and wanting things that is not suppose to want and let things go with the flow(since i was being called”demanding” all the time by hi), or is it the universe telling me that you should have listened to your heart and trust me, let it go…Finally I am at the stage that my soul is tired and I don’t have anymore energy to try to make things good and stop feeling there is something missing and don’t “want” too much from him… And as I was thinking this, he told me he is going to a long trip out of country for work.. Universe was speaking and helping me.. This is what happens, when you do something you were meant to do for your soul, universe backs you up..Of course since then I’ve been going back and forth cause the door is still open as he is away, but I know in my heart this has served its purpose, and fear of not feeling that way again is trying hard to hold on to what it has right now..Thank you guys for reminding me today, a heart needs a reminder everyday how important it is…

  • Danubelle

    :)

  • FIreFemme

    THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU CHRIS! I know without a shadow of a doubt that I am one of those people for whom you were prompted to write this. God bless you. One Love*

  • Mgdsm13

    James 1:6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.Matthew 13:58 And he did not do many mighty works there, because of their unbelief.

    When we pray, we may have serious doubts about God’s ability or willingness to answer our prayer.  James 12:6-7 indicates that if we pray in doubt, God will not honor our requests saying, “But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.”  God may be waiting for us to pray in real faith, in expectation of receiving an answer, or to see if we are serious enough to continue to pray for it.

    Read more: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/why-does-god-wait-to-answer-prayer/#ixzz2LvyrUh6c

  • Faith

    The timing of me reading your powerful message could not be more divine. thank you, thank you, thank you.  I am but one thin layer away from fully connecting with my support system and intuitive guides.  I have been holding back for all the reasons you spoke of.  I feel as though it is all around me and all I have to do is open the door to allow it in.  I choose now to open the door, wide open.  I am ready and willing for what messages it brings me, what changes it will lead to and I do so with faith. 

  • Lizlaw217

    Thank you.  Your not crazy either, I needed that!

  • http://twitter.com/happykt Kat

    You are my favorite Daily Love contributor. You always make me feel great and believe in the impossible.